Proverbs
Proverbs Bible Study - 12-Sessions
Proverbs is a collection of wise sayings and general principles intended to teach and guide us toward righteous living, but they are not promises or guarantees. As Pastor Timothy Keller notes, "Proverbs are observations about how life generally works; they are not absolute promises." Understanding this helps us appreciate the wisdom in Proverbs while recognizing that life may not always follow these patterns exactly.
Session
1: Wisdom’s Call - Proverbs
1–3
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READ - Proverbs 1–3 - The purpose of Proverbs, The fear of the Lord as the foundation of wisdom, Trusting in the Lord with all your heart
OVERVIEW
The first three chapters of Proverbs serve as an introduction to the book, laying the foundation for understanding its purpose and themes. Proverbs is a collection of wise sayings and instructions designed to impart wisdom, discipline, and prudent living. It emphasizes the importance of acquiring wisdom and living a life that honors God. "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction" (Proverbs 1:7). Pastor Charles Stanley explains, "Wisdom begins with a reverent relationship with God, acknowledging His authority and seeking His guidance in every aspect of life."
THOUGHT BY THOUGHT
The Purpose of Proverbs: The book of Proverbs aims to provide wisdom, instruction, and understanding for righteous living. Proverbs 1:2-3 states, "For gaining wisdom and instruction; for understanding words of insight; for receiving instruction in prudent behavior, doing what is right and just and fair." These verses highlight the practical benefits of wisdom, which include making wise decisions, living justly, and understanding the deeper meaning of life. Theologian John Calvin remarked, "Proverbs equips us to live wisely and righteously, reflecting God's character in our daily lives."
The Fear of the Lord as the Foundation of Wisdom: Proverbs 1:7 establishes the fear of the Lord as the foundation of true knowledge and wisdom. This concept is reiterated throughout the book, emphasizing that a reverent relationship with God is essential for gaining wisdom. "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction" (Proverbs 1:7). Pastor Rick Warren explains, "The fear of the Lord means respecting and honoring God, recognizing His sovereignty, and living in awe of His greatness. It is the starting point for all true wisdom."
Trusting in the Lord with All Your Heart: Proverbs 3:5-6 encourages believers to trust in the Lord completely, leaning not on their own understanding but seeking His guidance in all things. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight." This passage teaches that trusting God involves surrendering our own understanding and relying on His wisdom and guidance. Pastor Charles Stanley notes, "Trusting in the Lord with all our heart means placing our confidence in Him, acknowledging His authority, and seeking His direction in every area of life."
By reflecting on these biblical principles, we can gain a deeper understanding of the importance of wisdom, the fear of the Lord, and trusting in God's guidance. Proverbs 1–3 offers timeless wisdom that guides us in living a life that honors God and reflects His character.
KEY THOUGHTS
Wisdom is Calling – Wisdom is not hidden; it calls out to everyone who will listen (Proverbs 1:20-21).
Fear of the Lord – True wisdom starts with respecting and trusting God (Proverbs 1:7).
Choose the Right Path – Following God’s wisdom leads to peace and security (Proverbs 3:5-6).
God’s Guidance – When we trust in the Lord, He will direct our steps (Proverbs 3:5-6).
The Value of Wisdom – Wisdom is more valuable than money or success (Proverbs 3:13-15).
TELL THE STORY
Imagine you are walking through a busy town square. Voices are calling out—vendors selling goods, people talking about news, children laughing. In the middle of all this noise, there is a voice calling out above the crowd. This is the voice of wisdom. She is not hiding but standing in public, inviting people to listen.
Proverbs 1–3 describes wisdom as a woman calling out to us, urging us to follow God’s path. The book of Proverbs was written by King Solomon, a man known for his great wisdom. He wanted people, especially young people, to understand that life is full of choices. Some choices lead to peace and joy, while others bring trouble and regret.
Wisdom teaches us to trust God instead of relying only on ourselves. Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us to trust in the Lord with all our heart and not lean on our own understanding. That means when life is confusing, we should look to God for direction instead of just doing what “feels right.” When we choose wisdom—choosing God’s way—we find peace and security.
NEW TESTAMENT CONNECTION
Jesus also talked about wisdom and making good choices. In Matthew 7:24-27, He told a story about two builders:
One man built his house on rock (God’s wisdom).
The other built his house on sand (his own ways).
When the storm came, the house on the rock stood firm, but the one on the sand collapsed. This is just like Proverbs—if we build our lives on God’s wisdom, we will stand strong in life’s storms.
Another New Testament connection is James 1:5, where James tells us that if we need wisdom, we should ask God, and He will give it generously. Just like wisdom called out in Proverbs, Jesus and the New Testament continue the invitation: Will we listen and follow God’s wisdom?
Have you ever been lost while driving, only to finally stop and ask for directions? Maybe you had a map but didn’t look at it. Maybe you thought you knew the way but ended up somewhere unexpected. Life is a lot like that—without wisdom, we can easily take wrong turns.
Proverbs
1–3 reminds us that wisdom
is like a roadmap for life,
and it all begins with trusting God. Proverbs 3:5-6 says:
"Trust
in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own
understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your
paths
straight."
Think about a time when you had to trust someone’s guidance—maybe a doctor, a teacher, or even a friend. How did it feel to let go of control and rely on them? That’s what trusting God is like. Instead of relying on our own limited understanding, we choose to follow His wisdom.
Quote
to Reflect On:
"True
wisdom is not merely knowing what to do, but doing what we know is
right in the eyes of God."
— Unknown
LEAD-IN QUESTION: "When was the last time you had to make a difficult decision? How did you go about making it?"
—"Like choosing between two medical treatments - one familiar but less effective, another new but promising. This mirrors Solomon's pursuit of wisdom to make good choices."
DISCUSSION QUESTION:
"What does Proverbs 1:7 mean by 'the fear of the Lord'?" —This isn't about being afraid, but rather a deep respect and awe of God. Like how we respect fire - we appreciate its warmth and usefulness while understanding its power.
"In Proverbs 3:5-6, what does it mean to 'lean not on your own understanding'?" —Consider how GPS navigation often shows better routes than our own familiar paths. Similarly, God's wisdom often leads us differently than our natural inclinations.
"How can we practically apply Prover bs 2:1-5 in our daily lives?" —These verses describe wisdom like hidden treasure. Just as we carefully manage our finances or health, we should actively seek God's wisdom through prayer, study, and counsel.
"What's the difference between worldly wisdom and godly wisdom according to Proverbs 1:20-33?" —Worldly wisdom often focuses on immediate benefits, while godly wisdom considers eternal impact and alignment with God's character.
APPLY THIS CONTENT
Christians today can apply the content from Proverbs 1-3 by actively seeking wisdom and prioritizing their relationship with God. The purpose of Proverbs is to provide practical guidance for living a righteous and fulfilling life. "For gaining wisdom and instruction; for understanding words of insight" (Proverbs 1:2). By regularly reading and reflecting on Proverbs, believers can gain valuable insights and principles to navigate life's challenges. Pastor Charles Stanley explains, "The foundation of wisdom is a relationship with God, rooted in reverence and humility."
Additionally, trusting in the Lord with all our heart, as emphasized in Proverbs 3:5-6, encourages believers to rely on God's wisdom and guidance rather than their own understanding. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight." This teaches us to surrender our worries and uncertainties to God, confident that He will direct our paths. Pastor Rick Warren emphasizes, "Trusting in God means placing our faith in His promises and seeking His guidance in every aspect of our lives."
SERIOUSLY THINKING- Growing Traits in the Person Who Learns from- Proverbs 1–3
→Trait →Description →Scripture Reference
→Teachability →A heart open to correction, eager to learn from God’s word and those He uses to impart wisdom. →Proverbs 1:5 – “Let the wise listen and add to their learning…”
→Fear of the Lord →Reverence for God that leads to moral decision-making and turning away from evil influences. →Proverbs 1:7 – “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge…”
→Discernment →Ability to distinguish between good and evil, wise and foolish paths, and to apply God's truth in daily decisions. →Proverbs 2:9–11 – “…then you will understand what is right and just and fair…”
→Integrity →Walking uprightly and honestly in all circumstances, reflecting God’s nature in a compromised world. →Proverbs 2:7 – “He holds success in store for the upright…”
→Trust in God →Living with deep reliance on God rather than self, especially in uncertain or challenging times. →Proverbs 3:5–6 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart…”
→Peaceful Living →Experiencing God’s security and peace as a result of obeying His wisdom and not being anxious or prideful. →Proverbs 3:17 – “Her ways are pleasant ways, and all her paths are peace.”
TAKE-HOME THOUGHT
The bigger picture of God’s plan associated with Proverbs 1-3 reveals His desire for His people to live wisely and righteously by seeking wisdom and trusting in His guidance. The fear of the Lord is the foundation of true knowledge and wisdom, highlighting the importance of a reverent relationship with God. "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction" (Proverbs 1:7). Reflecting on these chapters, we see that God values wisdom as an essential component of a well-lived life.
Moreover, the emphasis on trusting in the Lord with all our heart underscores the significance of relying on God's wisdom rather than our own understanding. This teaches us that true wisdom comes from a humble and teachable spirit, willing to seek God's guidance in every decision. "If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God…” James 1:5
Session 2: Walking in Wisdom - Proverbs 4–6
READ - Proverbs 4–6 - The path of the righteous vs. the wicked, Guarding your heart, Warnings against laziness and dishonesty
OVERVIEW
In Session 2, we delve into Proverbs 4-6, which offer wisdom on living a righteous life, guarding one's heart, and avoiding laziness and dishonesty. These chapters emphasize the stark contrast between the path of the righteous and the wicked, urging believers to choose wisely. "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it" (Proverbs 4:23). Pastor Charles Stanley notes, "Guarding our hearts means protecting our minds, emotions, and will from influences that draw us away from God."
THOUGHT BY THOUGHT
The Path of the Righteous vs. the Wicked: Proverbs 4:18-19 contrasts the paths of the righteous and the wicked. "The path of the righteous is like the morning sun, shining ever brighter till the full light of day. But the way of the wicked is like deep darkness; they do not know what makes them stumble." This highlights the clarity and guidance that come from following God's ways, compared to the confusion and stumbling that result from wickedness. Pastor Rick Warren states, "Living in righteousness brings clarity and purpose, whereas a life of wickedness leads to confusion and chaos."
Guarding Your Heart: Proverbs 4:23 underscores the importance of guarding one's heart. "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." This principle emphasizes that our thoughts, emotions, and will must be protected from harmful influences. Christian author John Eldredge explains, "Guarding your heart involves nurturing your relationship with God and being mindful of what you allow to influence your inner life."
Warnings Against Laziness and Dishonesty: Proverbs 6:6-11 and 6:16-19 warn against laziness and dishonesty. "Go to the ant, you sluggard; consider its ways and be wise!" (Proverbs 6:6) and "There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood..." (Proverbs 6:16-17). These verses encourage diligence and honesty, warning that laziness and dishonesty lead to ruin. Pastor Timothy Keller emphasizes, "Hard work and integrity are essential in living a life that honors God and reflects His character."
Key Thoughts
Two Paths – Life is a choice between the way of wisdom (righteousness) and the way of foolishness (wickedness).
Guard Your Heart – What we think, say, and do flows from the condition of our hearts.
Work with Integrity – Hard work and honesty are rewarded, while laziness and dishonesty lead to ruin.
Tell the Story
Imagine you are on a journey, and you come to a fork in the road. One path is smooth and well-lit, leading to safety and peace. The other is dark and full of dangers—potholes, thorns, and traps. Proverbs 4 tells us that choosing wisdom is like taking the safe, bright path, while rejecting wisdom leads to destruction.
Solomon, the writer of Proverbs, gives us a fatherly talk. He tells his son (and us) to listen closely to wisdom, to store God’s words deep in our hearts, and to live by them. He warns about the dangers of wickedness—how sin can trap people and lead them into trouble. He encourages us to stay focused on what is right:
"Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." (Proverbs 4:23,)
In Proverbs 6, we also see warnings against laziness and dishonesty. Solomon uses the example of an ant—an insect that works hard without needing someone to push it. He warns against being a "sluggard" (lazy person) who refuses to work and ends up in poverty. He also warns about deceitful people who use lies and tricks to get ahead. God values honesty and hard work, and He calls us to live with integrity.
NEW TESTAMENT CONNECTION:
Jesus also spoke about the two paths of life in Matthew 7:13-14, where He describes the narrow gate (leading to life) and the wide gate (leading to destruction). Just like Proverbs teaches, Jesus tells us that wisdom means choosing the right path, even when it’s not the easiest one.
Guarding our hearts is also emphasized in the New Testament. In Luke 6:45, Jesus says:
"A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of."
Just as Solomon warns us to protect our hearts, Jesus reminds us that what we allow into our hearts will eventually come out in our words and actions.
Finally, Paul warns against laziness in 2 Thessalonians 3:10, saying:
"The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat."
Both Proverbs and the New Testament remind us that wisdom is not just about knowledge—it’s about action. Choosing God's way means living with integrity, working hard, and keeping our hearts focused on Him.
THINK ABOUT THIS
Have you ever taken a wrong turn while driving? Maybe you followed an old map, got distracted, or just didn’t see the sign. At first, it might not seem like a big deal, but after a while, you realize you’re lost. The farther you go, the harder it is to find your way back.
Life works the same way. Proverbs 4 talks about two paths—the righteous path and the wicked path. Sometimes, the wrong path doesn’t seem dangerous at first. It might even look easier or more exciting. But little choices—cutting corners, telling small lies, ignoring wise advice—can lead us far from where we meant to go. That’s why Proverbs 4:26-27 tells us:
"Give careful thought to the paths for your feet and be steadfast in all your ways. Do not turn to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil."
In the same way, guarding our hearts is like making sure we are following the right directions. What we allow into our hearts—our thoughts, attitudes, and influences—shapes our lives. If we fill our hearts with God’s wisdom, we will stay on the right path.
A Thought to Ponder:
Dwight L. Moody once said:
“The Bible will keep you from sin, or sin will keep you from the Bible.”
That’s why staying close to God’s Word matters. It keeps us from getting lost and helps us make wise choices.
LEAD-IN QUESTION: "When was the last time you had to make a difficult choice between two paths in life? How did you decide which way to go?"
—A retired teacher once shared: "When I was offered an early retirement package, I had to choose between financial security and my passion for teaching. I prayed about it and sought wisdom from mentors before deciding."
DISCUSSION QUESTION:
Read Proverbs 4:18-19. How does Solomon describe the difference between the path of the righteous and the way of the wicked? —These verses use the metaphor of light and darkness. The righteous path grows brighter like dawn becoming full day, suggesting growing clarity and joy. The wicked path is dark, leading to stumbling - they don't even know what makes them fall.
Looking at Proverbs 4:23, what does it mean to "guard your heart"? What things in today's world do we need to guard our hearts against? —The heart in Hebrew thought was the center of thinking and decisions, not just emotions. This verse suggests being careful about what influences our thoughts and choices, as they shape our lives.
Read Proverbs 6:6-8. What lessons can we learn from the ant? How can we apply this to our spiritual lives? —The ant demonstrates initiative and preparation without needing supervision. Similarly, our spiritual growth requires personal responsibility and consistent effort, not just showing up at church.
In Proverbs 6:16-19, which of the seven things God hates seems most relevant to our current culture? Why? —This question helps seniors connect ancient wisdom to modern challenges while discussing how timeless principles apply today.
APPLY THIS CONTENT
Christians today can apply the content from Proverbs 4-6 by actively choosing to walk in the path of righteousness, guarding their hearts, and avoiding laziness and dishonesty. Proverbs 4:18-19 highlights the contrast between the path of the righteous and the wicked: "The path of the righteous is like the morning sun, shining ever brighter till the full light of day. But the way of the wicked is like deep darkness; they do not know what makes them stumble." Pastor Rick Warren explains, "Living in righteousness brings clarity and purpose, whereas a life of wickedness leads to confusion and chaos." By committing to righteous living, Christians can experience the peace and guidance that come from walking in God's ways.
Guarding one's heart is another crucial aspect emphasized in Proverbs 4:23: "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." This involves being mindful of what we allow to influence our thoughts, emotions, and actions. Christian author John Eldredge notes, "Guarding your heart involves nurturing your relationship with God and being mindful of what you allow to influence your inner life." By prioritizing spiritual practices such as prayer, Bible study, and fellowship, Christians can protect their hearts from harmful influences and cultivate a heart that is aligned with God's will.
Moreover, Proverbs 6:6-11 and 6:16-19 warn against laziness and dishonesty, highlighting the importance of diligence and integrity. "Go to the ant, you sluggard; consider its ways and be wise!" (Proverbs 6:6). Pastor Timothy Keller emphasizes, "Hard work and integrity are essential in living a life that honors God and reflects His character." Christians can apply this wisdom by being diligent in their work, honest in their dealings, and faithful in their commitments. By doing so, they reflect God's character and contribute to a just and righteous society.
SERIOUSLY THINKING- Growing Traits in the Person Who Learns from- Proverbs 4–6
→Trait →Description →Scripture Reference
→Pursuit of Wisdom →Actively seeking wisdom as a priority above possessions or status; seeing it as essential for life and guidance. →Proverbs 4:7 – “The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom…”
→Guarded Heart →Protecting one's inner life—thoughts, emotions, desires—from corrupt influences that lead to sin. →Proverbs 4:23 – “Above all else, guard your heart…”
→Moral Discipline →Choosing a lifestyle of purity and faithfulness in contrast to temptation and unfaithfulness. →Proverbs 5:8 – “Keep to a path far from her…”
→Financial Integrity →Practicing honesty and responsibility in money matters; avoiding deceit, greed, and exploitation. →Proverbs 6:1–5 – “...you have been trapped by what you said…”
→Diligence →Valuing hard work and avoiding laziness or passivity, understanding the consequences of neglect. →Proverbs 6:6–11 – “Go to the ant, you sluggard…”
→Avoidance of Evil →Recognizing and turning away from corrupt speech, divisiveness, and destructive behavior. →Proverbs 6:16–19 – “There are six things the Lord hates…”
TAKE-HOME THOUGHT
The bigger picture of God’s plan associated with Proverbs 4-6 reveals His desire for His people to live wisely and righteously. The stark contrast between the path of the righteous and the wicked teaches us that our choices have significant consequences, both for our lives and for our relationship with God. "The path of the righteous is like the morning sun, shining ever brighter till the full light of day" (Proverbs 4:18). Reflecting on these verses, we see that God values righteousness and integrity as essential components of a life well-lived.
Additionally, the emphasis on guarding our hearts highlights the importance of nurturing our relationship with God and being mindful of the influences we allow into our lives. "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it" (Proverbs 4:23)
Session 3: Choosing Righteousness - Proverbs 7–9
READ - Proverbs 7–9 - Wisdom vs. folly, The call of wisdom vs. the lure of temptation, The rewards of choosing righteousness
OVERVIEW
Proverbs 7-9 explores a crucial life choice: the path of wisdom versus the path of folly. It paints vivid pictures of these two paths, showing the benefits of choosing wisdom and the devastating consequences of choosing folly. The chapters personify Wisdom, making her a compelling figure who calls out to us, offering life and blessing. Conversely, Folly is depicted as seductive and alluring, but her path leads to ruin. As Matthew Henry, a well-known Bible commentator, once said, "Wisdom's ways are ways of pleasantness, and all her paths are peace." This section of Proverbs reminds us that choosing righteousness, which is aligned with wisdom, is the key to a fulfilling and blessed life.
THOUGHT BY THOUGHT
These chapters present wisdom as a woman calling out in the streets, inviting people to learn from her (Proverbs 8:1). Think of wisdom as more than just book smarts. It's about making good choices, living a life that honors God, and understanding what's truly important. Proverbs tells us that "the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom" (Proverbs 9:10). This means recognizing God's place in our lives and choosing to live according to His ways. It's about understanding right from wrong and making choices that reflect that understanding. It reminds me of what C.S. Lewis said, "Goodness is, so to speak, itself: badness is only spoiled goodness." Wisdom helps us stay on the path of goodness.
On the other hand, folly is also personified as a woman, but she's deceptive and leads people astray (Proverbs 7:11-12). She promises pleasure and excitement, but her path ultimately leads to destruction (Proverbs 7:27). It's like a tempting shortcut that seems easy at first, but it ends up being a dangerous detour. The Bible warns us, "There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death" (Proverbs 14:12). This is a powerful reminder that not every choice that feels good is actually good for us. Folly often disguises itself, making bad choices look appealing. Choosing righteousness means being aware of these deceptions and choosing the path of wisdom, even when it's difficult. It means saying "no" to things that might harm us or lead us away from God.
The rewards of choosing righteousness are immense. Proverbs 8:18-21 talks about riches, honor, enduring wealth, and justice. These aren't just material things, but also include peace of mind, strong relationships, and a life filled with purpose. Choosing wisdom leads to a life of blessing, not just for ourselves, but also for those around us. It's about building a life on a solid foundation, a foundation that will withstand the storms of life. It's about knowing that we are living in a way that pleases God and brings true and lasting happiness.
KEY THOUGHTS
Wisdom vs. Folly – Proverbs presents wisdom as a woman calling out to those who will listen, while folly (foolishness) is like an immoral woman leading people to destruction.
The Call of Wisdom vs. The Lure of Temptation – Wisdom offers truth, understanding, and life, while temptation is deceptive and leads to sin and consequences.
The Rewards of Choosing Righteousness – Those who follow wisdom live securely and at peace, while those who choose foolishness and sin suffer harm.
TELL THE STORY
Imagine
two voices calling out to you as you walk through town. On one side,
a kind and wise woman (Wisdom) calls out with good advice:
"Come,
learn from me! I will teach you the way to live well."
On
the other side, a loud and flashy woman (Folly) shouts:
"Come
with me! My way is fun and
exciting—no one will ever know!"
This is the picture Proverbs 7–9 paints. Wisdom is honest, leads to life, and is built on the fear of the Lord (Proverbs 9:10). Folly is deceptive, often looks appealing, but leads to destruction (Proverbs 7:27).
Solomon warns his readers—especially young men—to avoid temptation. He describes how an immoral woman lures a young man into sin with enticing words, but he doesn’t realize it’s a trap (Proverbs 7:6–23). In contrast, wisdom is like a gracious host preparing a feast for those who choose to follow her (Proverbs 9:1–6).
At the heart of this passage is a simple truth: We all have a choice—follow wisdom and live, or follow folly and suffer the consequences.
NEW TESTAMENT CONNECTION
Jesus
also speaks of two choices in Matthew
7:13–14:
"Enter
through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road
that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is
the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find
it."
Just like Proverbs contrasts wisdom and folly, Jesus describes two paths—one that leads to life (following Him) and one that leads to destruction (following sin).
Paul
also reminds us in Galatians
6:7–8:
"Do
not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.
Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap
destruction;
whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal
life."
This echoes Proverbs' message—choosing righteousness brings life, but following sin leads to ruin. The good news? Through Jesus, we have the wisdom and strength to choose the right path!
THINK ABOUT THIS
Imagine you're driving down a country road and come to a fork. One path is a smooth, well-lit highway with signs pointing toward safety and home. The other is a dark, winding road that looks exciting but has warning signs about danger ahead.
This is the choice Proverbs 7–9 gives us—the way of wisdom or the way of folly. One path leads to life and peace, while the other leads to destruction. The problem? The dangerous road often looks more appealing at first!
Life
is full of these choices. Sometimes, wisdom whispers, but temptation
shouts.
Whether it's in small daily decisions or major life changes, we must
ask:
Which
voice am I listening to?
What
direction will my choices take me?
A Quote to Ponder
"Wisdom is the right use of knowledge. To know is not to be wise. Many men know a great deal and are all the greater fools for it. But to know how to use knowledge is to have wisdom." — Charles Spurgeon
God calls us to seek wisdom, not just knowledge. It’s not enough to know what’s right—we must choose to follow it.
Reflection:
Have you ever taken the “wrong road” in life and later realized where it led?
What helped you turn back toward wisdom?
How can we better recognize wisdom’s voice in daily life?
Wisdom calls out to us every day. The question is—are we listening?
LEAD-IN QUESTION: "When was the last time you had to make a choice between something that felt good in the moment versus what you knew was right in the long run?"
—"Like choosing between watching your favorite TV show or attending a grandchild's school event. The show brings immediate pleasure, but missing precious family moments can't be recovered."
DISCUSSION QUESTION:
"Reading Proverbs 7:6-27, what similarities do you see between the young man's choices and decisions people make today?"
—This passage describes a young man being seduced by temptation. Guide discussion toward modern parallels like financial shortcuts, relationship compromises, or ethical dilemmas at work.
"In Proverbs 8:10-11, wisdom is described as more valuable than silver and gold. What makes wisdom so precious in your experience?"
—Encourage sharing of life experiences where wisdom proved more valuable than material gain. Connect to how God's wisdom protects and guides us.
"Looking at Proverbs 9:1-6 and 9:13-18, how does wisdom's invitation differ from folly's?"
—Highlight how wisdom offers lasting fulfillment while folly promises quick pleasure. Draw parallels to everyday choices seniors face.
APPLY THIS CONTENT
Christians today can apply the content from Proverbs 7-9 by seeking wisdom and actively choosing righteousness over folly and temptation. Proverbs 7 vividly portrays the seductive allure of temptation, warning believers to avoid it by embracing wisdom. "Say to wisdom, 'You are my sister,' and to insight, 'You are my relative'" (Proverbs 7:4). Pastor Charles Stanley notes, "Embracing wisdom as a close companion helps us make choices that align with God's will and avoid the pitfalls of temptation."
By prioritizing wisdom and understanding, we equip ourselves to recognize and resist the deceptive allure of folly. Proverbs 9 contrasts the invitations of wisdom and folly, urging believers to choose wisely. "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding" (Proverbs 9:10). Pastor Rick Warren emphasizes, "Living in reverent awe of God and seeking His wisdom guides us in making righteous decisions."
Moreover, these chapters teach the rewards of choosing righteousness. Proverbs 8:17-18 states, "I love those who love me, and those who seek me find me. With me are riches and honor, enduring wealth and prosperity." By seeking wisdom and living righteously, we experience God's blessings and favor in our lives.
SERIOUSLY THINKING- Growing Traits in the Person Who Learns from- Proverbs 7–9
→Trait →Description →Scripture Reference
→Moral Awareness →Staying alert to seductive or deceptive influences that lead away from God’s ways, especially in areas of sexuality and temptation. →Proverbs 7:25 – “Do not let your heart turn to her ways…”
→Love for Truth →Valuing truth over personal gain or pleasure; aligning life with God’s revealed wisdom. →Proverbs 8:7 – “My mouth speaks what is true…”
→Respect for God’s Design →Recognizing wisdom as part of God’s creative order and aligning one’s life accordingly. →Proverbs 8:22–31 – “The Lord brought me forth as the first of his works…”
→Intentional Living →Choosing daily to walk in the way of righteousness, not out of obligation but desire to please and honor God. →Proverbs 8:20 – “I walk in the way of righteousness…”
→Humble Teachability →Being open to correction and instruction as a sign of wisdom, rather than reacting with pride or resistance. →Proverbs 9:8–9 – “Rebuke the wise and they will love you…”
→Eternal Perspective →Living with a long-term view, aware that choosing wisdom leads to life and rejecting it leads to destruction. →Proverbs 9:11–12 – “For through wisdom your days will be many…”
TAKE-HOME THOUGHT
The bigger picture of God’s plan associated with Proverbs 7-9 reveals His desire for His people to live wisely and righteously. The vivid contrasts between wisdom and folly, and the rewards of choosing righteousness, emphasize the importance of aligning our lives with God's principles. "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding" (Proverbs 9:10). Reflecting on these verses, we see that a life rooted in reverence for God and the pursuit of His wisdom leads to fulfillment and blessings.
Moreover, these chapters remind us that temptation and folly are ever-present, but by embracing wisdom and understanding, we can navigate life's challenges with clarity and purpose. The call of wisdom and the warnings against folly in Proverbs serve as timeless guidance for believers, encouraging us to seek God's wisdom in every aspect of our lives.
By understanding and embracing these truths, we can find hope, direction, and purpose in our relationship with God. Embracing the lessons from Proverbs 7-9 helps us make decisions that honor God and reflect His wisdom, leading to a life of righteousness and fulfillment.
Session 4: Words Matter - Proverbs 10–12
READ - Proverbs 10–12
OVERVIEW
Proverbs 10-12 emphasize the impact of words, the importance of truthfulness, and the life-giving nature of righteousness. These chapters highlight how our words can either build up or tear down, the value of honesty over deception, and how living righteously aligns with God's will. "The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit" (Proverbs 18:21). Pastor Charles Stanley notes, "Our words have tremendous power to influence others positively or negatively; we must use them wisely."
THOUGHT BY THOUGHT
The Power of Words: Building Up or Tearing Down: Proverbs 10:19-21 emphasizes the importance of using words wisely. "Sin is not ended by multiplying words, but the prudent hold their tongues. The tongue of the righteous is choice silver, but the heart of the wicked is of little value. The lips of the righteous nourish many, but fools die for lack of sense." This passage teaches that righteous speech can nourish and build up others, while careless or wicked words can cause harm. Christian author John Maxwell states, "Words can inspire and build up, or they can wound and tear down; the choice is ours to make."
Truthfulness vs. Deception: Proverbs 12:17-19 underscores the importance of honesty. "An honest witness tells the truth, but a false witness tells lies. The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment." This principle emphasizes that truthfulness leads to lasting trust and integrity, while deception causes harm and is ultimately fleeting. Pastor Rick Warren explains, "Honesty reflects God's character and builds trust, while deception undermines relationships and causes pain."
Righteousness Leads to Life: Proverbs 12:28 highlights the life-giving nature of righteousness. "In the way of righteousness there is life; along that path is immortality." Living righteously aligns with God's will and leads to a fulfilling and eternal life. Theologian John Calvin remarked, "Righteousness is the path to true life, both in this world and in eternity, as it reflects God's holiness and His desire for our well-being."
By reflecting on these biblical principles, we can gain a deeper understanding of the importance of our words, truthfulness, and righteousness. Proverbs 10-12 offer timeless wisdom that guides us in living a life that honors God and reflects His character.
Key Thoughts
Words Have Power – Our words can either build people up or tear them down. Proverbs frequently contrasts wise, life-giving speech with destructive, foolish talk.
Truth vs. Lies – Honesty is a mark of wisdom, while deception leads to harm. Truth brings stability, while lies create trouble.
Righteousness Brings Life – Living with integrity and righteousness leads to blessings, while wickedness leads to destruction.
Tell the Story
Imagine two neighbors, Sarah and Tom. Sarah is kind with her words—she encourages others, listens well, and speaks truth with love. Tom, on the other hand, is quick to gossip, tell half-truths, and criticize others. Over time, Sarah gains the trust and respect of her friends, while Tom finds himself isolated because people don’t trust what he says.
This is exactly what Proverbs 10–12 teaches. The words we speak matter. Proverbs 10:11 says, “The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life, but the mouth of the wicked conceals violence.” Our words either bring life or cause harm.
Proverbs also warns against lying. Proverbs 12:22 says, “The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy.” Truthfulness builds strong relationships, while deception leads to broken trust.
Finally, these chapters remind us that living a righteous life leads to blessings. Proverbs 11:19 says, “Truly the righteous attain life, but whoever pursues evil finds death.” The choices we make—especially in how we speak—affect our lives and the lives of those around us.
NEW TESTAMENT CONNECTION:
Jesus also emphasized the power of words. In Matthew 12:36-37, He said, “But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.” Just like in Proverbs, Jesus reminds us that our words have consequences.
Paul reinforces this in Ephesians 4:29: “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” This echoes Proverbs’ wisdom—our words should bring life, not harm.
By choosing to speak truth and encouragement, we reflect God’s righteousness and honor Him with our words.
THINK ABOUT THIS
Have you ever had a time when someone’s words lifted your spirit just when you needed it? Maybe a kind word from a friend encouraged you on a tough day, or a heartfelt “thank you” made you feel appreciated. On the other hand, can you recall a time when careless words hurt you deeply? Words have power—they can heal or harm, build up or tear down.
Proverbs
reminds us of this truth:
“The
words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise
brings healing.”
— Proverbs
12:18
Think about a time when someone’s words made a difference in your life. Were they words of kindness that encouraged you? Or hurtful words that stuck with you longer than they should have? The words we speak leave a lasting impact on others.
Billy
Graham once said:
“A
word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of
praise after success.”
God calls us to be people who speak life and truth. Proverbs 10:11 says, “The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life.” What would happen if we made it a habit to speak words that refresh and encourage others?
This week, let’s be intentional about the words we speak. Who in your life needs a kind or encouraging word? Maybe it’s a family member, a friend, or even a stranger. A simple, sincere word can change someone’s day—and maybe even their life.
Reflection Question:
Can you think of a time when someone’s words brought you encouragement?
What can you do this week to make sure your words bring life to those around you?
LEAD-IN QUESTION: "When was the last time someone's words significantly impacted your day - either positively or negatively?"
—Consider Maya Angelou's quote: "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
Read Proverbs 10:11 - "The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life, but the mouth of the wicked conceals violence." —Think about how our words can either refresh others like a life-giving fountain or harm them like hidden violence. What's one practical way we can be more intentional with our words?
Look at Proverbs 11:13 - "A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret." —Consider how gossip affects relationships in our church community. What makes it so tempting to share information that isn't ours to share?
Examine Proverbs 12:18 - "The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing." —This verse contrasts harmful and healing speech. How can we turn a potentially hurtful conversation into an opportunity for encouragement?
Study Proverbs 12:22 - "The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy." —Why do you think truthfulness is so important to God? How does being honest strengthen our relationships with others and with Him?
Consider Proverbs 10:19 - "Sin is not ended by multiplying words, but the prudent hold their tongues." —Sometimes wisdom means knowing when to stay quiet. What situations in your life call for more listening and less speaking?
APPLY THIS CONTENT
Christians today can apply the principles from Proverbs 10-12 by being mindful of the power of their words, committing to truthfulness, and living righteously. Proverbs 18:21 teaches, "The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit." Pastor Rick Warren emphasizes, "Words can build up or tear down, heal or hurt. We must choose our words carefully, reflecting Christ's love and truth in our speech." By being intentional in our communication and avoiding harmful words, we can build others up and create a positive impact in our relationships and communities.
In addition to using our words wisely, Proverbs 12:17-19 highlights the importance of truthfulness. "An honest witness tells the truth, but a false witness tells lies." Pastor Charles Stanley notes, "Honesty is a cornerstone of a godly character. It builds trust and reflects the integrity of our faith." By committing to truthfulness in all our dealings, we demonstrate integrity and honor God in our actions.
Furthermore, living righteously leads to a fulfilling and eternal life. Proverbs 12:28 states, "In the way of righteousness there is life; along that path is immortality." Theologian John Calvin remarked, "Righteousness is the path to true life, both in this world and in eternity." By striving to live righteously, we align ourselves with God's will and experience His blessings in our lives.
SERIOUSLY THINKING- Growing Traits in the Person Who Learns from- Proverbs 10–12
→Trait →Description →Scripture Reference
→Truthfulness →Speaking honestly in all situations, reflecting God’s character and building trust with others. →Proverbs 12:22 – “The Lord detests lying lips…”
→Restraint in Speech →Choosing silence or thoughtful words rather than reacting impulsively or speaking excessively. →Proverbs 10:19 – “Sin is not ended by multiplying words…”
→Life-Giving Communication →Using words to encourage, heal, and build up others, not tear them down. →Proverbs 12:18 – “...the tongue of the wise brings healing.”
→Discernment in Words →Knowing when and how to speak appropriately, with wisdom that suits the moment. →Proverbs 10:32 – “The lips of the righteous know what finds favor…”
→Avoiding Gossip and Slander →Refusing to spread harmful or divisive speech about others. →Proverbs 11:13 – “A gossip betrays a confidence…”
→Speaking Justice and Righteousness →Using one's voice to promote what is right and defend truth in a world prone to injustice. →Proverbs 12:6 – “The words of the wicked lie in wait for blood…”
TAKE-HOME THOUGHT
The bigger picture of God’s plan associated with Proverbs 10-12 reveals His desire for His people to live wisely, speak truthfully, and walk in righteousness. These principles are not just rules to follow but guidelines for a fulfilling and godly life. Reflecting on these verses, we see that our words and actions have the power to influence others and shape our own lives. "The lips of the righteous nourish many, but fools die for lack of sense" (Proverbs 10:21). Our words can provide encouragement and healing, reflecting God's love and wisdom.
Moreover, the emphasis on truthfulness and righteousness highlights the importance of aligning our lives with God's principles. "Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment" (Proverbs 12:19). By embracing honesty and righteousness, we build a foundation of trust and integrity that honors God and benefits our relationships.
By understanding and applying these truths, we can find hope, direction, and purpose in our relationship with God. Embracing the lessons from Proverbs 10-12 helps us live a life that reflects God's character and wisdom, leading to a fulfilling and impactful existence.
Session 5: A Life of Integrity - Proverbs 13–15
READ - Proverbs 13–15
OVERVIEW
Proverbs 13-15 provide a wealth of wisdom contrasting the paths of the wise and the foolish, highlighting the importance of discipline and correction, and illustrating the blessings that come from living a righteous life. These chapters teach that living with integrity, seeking wisdom, and adhering to God's principles lead to a fulfilling and blessed life. "The teaching of the wise is a fountain of life, turning a person from the snares of death" (Proverbs 13:14). Pastor Rick Warren emphasizes, "The principles in Proverbs guide us in making choices that honor God and lead to a life of integrity."
THOUGHT BY THOUGHT
The Contrast Between the Wise and the Foolish: Proverbs 13:20 underscores the importance of associating with wise individuals. "Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm." This principle teaches that our associations influence our character and decision-making. Pastor Charles Stanley notes, "Choosing wise companions helps us grow in wisdom and avoid the pitfalls of foolish behavior." The contrast between the wise and the foolish is a recurring theme in Proverbs, reminding us to seek wisdom and avoid foolishness.
The Value of Discipline and Correction: Proverbs 13:24 highlights the importance of discipline. "Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them." This verse emphasizes that loving correction and discipline are essential for growth and development. Theologian John Calvin remarked, "Discipline, though often unpleasant, is a crucial aspect of love and guidance." Proverbs 15:5 also states, "A fool spurns a parent’s discipline, but whoever heeds correction shows prudence." Embracing discipline and correction is vital for living a life of integrity.
The Blessings of a Righteous Life: Proverbs 14:34 emphasizes the blessings that come from righteousness. "Righteousness exalts a nation, but sin condemns any people." This principle underscores that living righteously leads to blessings and honor, while sin leads to downfall. Pastor Timothy Keller explains, "Righteous living aligns us with God's will and brings about His favor and blessings." Proverbs 15:9 also states, "The Lord detests the way of the wicked, but he loves those who pursue righteousness." Pursuing righteousness is key to experiencing God's love and blessings.
By reflecting on these biblical principles, we can gain a deeper understanding of the importance of wisdom, discipline, and righteousness. Proverbs 13-15 offer timeless wisdom that guides us in living a life of integrity and honoring God in all we do.
LEAD-IN QUESTION: Think about a time when you made a good decision that had positive results, or a poor decision with negative results. What happened?
—"I remember when I decided to save a little bit of money each week, even though it was hard. Later, when my washing machine broke down, I had enough saved to buy a new one! That good decision really paid off." (Or share a quick story about a poor decision and its consequences). Keep it brief and relatable.
DISCUSSION QUESTION:
Question: Proverbs talks a lot about "wise" and "foolish" people. In your own words, what's the difference between someone who is wise and someone who is foolish? (Proverbs 13:20)
—Wise people often listen to advice, learn from their mistakes, and think before they act. Foolish people might ignore advice, repeat the same mistakes, and act impulsively without considering the consequences. It's not about being book-smart, but about having good judgment and making good choices.
Question: Proverbs 15:3 says, "The eyes of the Lord are everywhere, keeping watch on the wicked and the good." How does it make you feel to know God is always watching?
—Some might find this comforting, knowing God sees and cares. Others might find it a little unsettling, knowing God sees our mistakes too. It reminds us that we are accountable for our actions, but also that God is aware of our struggles and offers guidance. It’s an opportunity to be encouraged and to seek God's help.
Question: Proverbs 13:18 says, "Whoever disregards discipline comes to poverty and shame, but whoever heeds correction is honored." What 1 does this mean about discipline and correction?
—This isn't just about parents disciplining children. It also means being willing to learn from our mistakes and accept constructive criticism from others. It’s about self-discipline, learning to control our impulses and make good choices even when it’s hard. Think about times when you were corrected, and it helped you.
Question: Proverbs 14:26 says, "Whoever fears the Lord has a secure fortress, and their children will have refuge." What does fearing the Lord mean to you?
—Fearing the Lord isn't about being scared of God. It’s about having a deep respect for God and acknowledging his power and authority. It’s about recognizing His holiness and wanting to live in a way that pleases Him. When we have that respect for God, it gives us a sense of security and helps us make wise choices, which in turn benefits our families.
Question: Proverbs 15:1 says, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." How can we apply this to our daily lives, especially in our relationships with family and friends?
—This proverb is a great reminder about the power of our words. A kind and gentle response can deescalate a tense situation, while a harsh word can make things worse. Think about how we communicate with others, and how we can choose our words more carefully.
Applying Proverbs 13-15 to Modern Life
While Proverbs aren't commands, they offer wisdom for navigating life. James 1:22 reminds us, "Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says." Proverbs 13-15 emphasizes the contrast between wisdom and foolishness, a distinction we face daily. Choosing wise friends (Proverbs 13:20) is as relevant today as ever. Surrounding ourselves with people who build us up and encourage us in our faith helps us stay on the right path. As C.S. Lewis said, "Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one.'" Finding those kindred spirits who share our values strengthens our resolve to live wisely.
The value of discipline and correction (Proverbs 13:18) also applies directly to our lives. We may not enjoy being told we're wrong, but as Hebrews 12:11 states, "No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it." This means being open to feedback, learning from our mistakes, and constantly striving to improve ourselves. It also means practicing self-control, resisting temptations, and making wise choices, even when they're difficult. Discipline isn't about self-hatred; it's about self-improvement, becoming the best version of ourselves we can be, with God's help. As John Wooden, the legendary basketball coach, put it, "Discipline yourself and others won't need to." This applies to our spiritual lives just as much as any other area.
Finally, the blessings of a righteous life (Proverbs 14:26) are not just pie in the sky; they're real and tangible. Living with integrity, honesty, and compassion brings peace, joy, and a sense of purpose. Micah 6:8 sums it up beautifully: "He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God." A righteous life isn't about perfection; it's about direction. It's about striving to live according to God's principles, seeking His forgiveness when we fall short, and trusting in His grace.
SERIOUSLY THINKING- Growing Traits in the Person Who Learns from- Proverbs 13–15
→Trait →Description →Scripture Reference
→Righteous Speech →Speaking with honesty, restraint, and encouragement; avoiding lies, gossip, or harmful talk. →Proverbs 13:3 – “Those who guard their lips preserve their lives…”
→Contentment →Valuing what is right and sufficient rather than chasing dishonest gain or material excess. →Proverbs 13:11 – “Dishonest money dwindles away…”
→Wise Companionship →Choosing relationships that encourage growth, accountability, and godliness. →Proverbs 13:20 – “Walk with the wise and become wise…”
→Slow to Anger →Practicing self-control in emotional responses, especially in the face of offense or conflict. →Proverbs 14:29 – “Whoever is patient has great understanding…”
→Integrity in Action →Doing what is right even when unseen or inconvenient; living consistently across all areas of life. →Proverbs 14:2 – “Whoever fears the Lord walks uprightly…”
→Heart-Rooted Joy →Finding joy in righteousness and peace with God rather than in superficial or temporary pleasures. →Proverbs 15:13 – “A happy heart makes the face cheerful…”
Take-Home Thought
Proverbs 13-15 paints a clear picture of the paths we can choose in life: the path of wisdom, leading to blessing, and the path of foolishness, leading to ruin. These chapters remind us that God is not distant or uninvolved. He's actively involved in our lives, offering guidance and wisdom to those who seek it. He desires that we live lives of integrity, reflecting His character to the world around us. This isn't just about following rules; it's about cultivating a heart that loves God and desires to do His will.
Ultimately, the wisdom found in Proverbs points us toward Jesus Christ, who is the ultimate example of wisdom and righteousness. As 1 Corinthians 1:30 tells us, "He has become for us wisdom from God—that is, our righteousness, holiness and redemption." By knowing Christ, we gain access to true wisdom, the kind that transforms our lives from the inside out. It's through Him that we find the strength to choose the path of wisdom, to embrace discipline and correction, and to experience the blessings of a life lived in accordance with God's will. So, let us seek Him daily, that we might grow in wisdom and live lives that honor Him.
Key Thoughts
Wisdom vs. Foolishness – A wise person listens to instruction and grows, while a fool ignores correction and suffers consequences.
Discipline Leads to Growth – Correction may be uncomfortable, but it helps us become better people. God disciplines those He loves.
A Righteous Life Brings Blessings – When we choose honesty, kindness, and obedience to God, we experience peace and joy.
Tell the Story
Imagine a grandfather teaching his grandson how to fish. The boy is impatient—he doesn’t want to listen, and he keeps casting his line in the wrong spot. The grandfather gently corrects him, showing him the right way. At first, the boy resists, but when he finally follows his grandfather’s advice, he catches a fish!
This is what Proverbs teaches about wisdom and correction. Proverbs 13:1 says, “A wise son heeds his father’s instruction, but a mocker does not respond to rebukes.” Wisdom means being willing to listen and learn.
Correction is part of growth. Proverbs 15:32 says, “Those who disregard discipline despise themselves, but the one who heeds correction gains understanding.” Just like the grandfather wanted to help his grandson succeed, God corrects us because He wants us to grow.
Proverbs teaches that living with integrity brings blessings. Proverbs 14:11 says, “The house of the wicked will be destroyed, but the tent of the upright will flourish.” Doing what’s right—even when it’s hard—leads to a better life.
NEW TESTAMENT CONNECTION:
Jesus also spoke about the importance of wisdom, discipline, and righteousness. In Matthew 7:24-27, He tells the parable of the wise and foolish builders. The wise man built his house on the rock—listening to God’s instruction—while the foolish man built on sand and suffered loss. This reflects Proverbs’ teaching: wisdom leads to stability, while foolishness leads to destruction.
Hebrews 12:11 reinforces the value of discipline: “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.” Just as Proverbs teaches, God corrects us because He loves us and wants us to grow in righteousness.
Living with integrity isn’t always easy, but it leads to lasting blessings. By following God’s wisdom, we build a life that flourishes—both now and for eternity.
THINK ABOUT THIS
Have you ever taken a wrong turn while driving, only to hear the GPS say, “Recalculating…”? Sometimes, we ignore directions because we think we know the way, only to end up lost. Life works the same way—when we ignore wisdom and correction, we often find ourselves in trouble.
Proverbs 13:10 says, “Where there is strife, there is pride, but wisdom is found in those who take advice.” A wise person is willing to listen and adjust their course, while a foolish person insists on their own way, even when it leads to trouble.
Think about a time when someone corrected you—maybe a teacher, a parent, or a friend. It might not have felt good at the time, but looking back, you realize they were trying to help. Proverbs 15:31 reminds us, “Whoever heeds life-giving correction will be at home among the wise.” Correction, though sometimes uncomfortable, helps us grow.
Billy
Graham once said:
“Integrity
means that if our private life were suddenly exposed, we’d have no
reason to be ashamed or embarrassed. Integrity means always doing the
right thing, even when no one else will know.”
Living with integrity brings blessings, as Proverbs 14:26 says, “Whoever fears the Lord has a secure fortress, and for their children it will be a refuge.” A life built on wisdom and honesty is a life of peace and security.
Reflection Questions:
Have you ever ignored wise advice and regretted it later?
How has correction helped you become a stronger person?
What small choices can you make this week to live with integrity and wisdom?
Session 6: Humility & Pride - Proverbs 16–18
READ - Proverbs 16–18
OVERVIEW
Proverbs 16-18 teaches us about two powerful forces: pride and humility. Pride puffs us up and leads to a fall, while humility lifts us up in God's eyes. These chapters also remind us that God is our protector, a strong tower in times of trouble. As C.S. Lewis said, "Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less." These proverbs show us how to live a life pleasing to God, a life marked by humility, wisdom, and trust in Him.
THOUGHT BY THOUGHT
The Consequences of Pride: Proverbs warns us repeatedly about the dangers of pride. Proverbs 16:18 tells us, "Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall." Think of it like this: when we become too proud, we start to think we don't need God or anyone else. We become blind to our own weaknesses and mistakes. This kind of pride leads to bad decisions and ultimately, to our downfall. We might hurt others, make foolish choices, or simply isolate ourselves. Like a tall building with a weak foundation, pride makes us unstable and vulnerable. Matthew Henry, a well-known Bible commentator, wrote that pride is "the root of all sin." When we're focused on ourselves, it's easy to fall into other sins like selfishness, anger, and dishonesty.
The Power of Humility: The opposite of pride is humility. Proverbs 18:12 says, "Before a downfall the heart is haughty, but humility comes before honor." Humility isn't thinking we're worthless; it's recognizing that all our gifts and abilities come from God. It's acknowledging our weaknesses and being willing to learn from others. A humble person is teachable, gentle, and willing to serve. They know that true strength comes from God, not from themselves. As Rick Warren, a popular pastor, puts it, "Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it's thinking of yourself less." When we are humble, we are open to God's guidance, and He can lift us up. Humility allows us to build strong relationships with others and with God.
The Name of the Lord as a Strong Tower: Proverbs 18:10 tells us, "The name of the Lord is a fortified tower; the righteous run to it and are safe." This is a beautiful picture of God's protection. In ancient times, people would run to a strong tower for safety during times of war or danger. In the same way, we can run to God for safety and refuge in times of trouble. His name represents His character, His power, and His love. When we trust in Him, we can find peace and security, no matter what challenges we face. The hymn "A Mighty Fortress Is Our God" captures this idea beautifully, reminding us that God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.
KEY THOUGHTS
Pride leads to downfall – Proverbs repeatedly warns that pride sets us up for failure, while humility leads to wisdom and honor (Proverbs 16:18, 18:12).
Humility invites God’s guidance – A humble heart is open to instruction, while a proud heart resists wisdom (Proverbs 16:3, 16:9).
The name of the Lord is a strong tower – Trusting in God’s name provides true security, unlike self-reliance (Proverbs 18:10).
TELL THE STORY
Imagine a man who has worked hard his whole life, building a successful business. He takes pride in what he has accomplished, believing he has done it all on his own. He never asks for advice and looks down on others who haven’t "made it" like he has. One day, a sudden economic downturn wipes out his wealth. The man is devastated—he had put all his confidence in himself, but now he has nothing.
Contrast this with another man who also worked hard but acknowledged that everything he had was a blessing from God. He sought wisdom, asked for advice, and was generous to others. When hard times came, he was shaken but not destroyed. His security was not in wealth or success but in God, his strong tower.
Proverbs 16:18 says, “Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.” Pride blinds us to our need for God and others, leading to downfall. But Proverbs 18:10 reminds us, “The name of the Lord is a fortified tower; the righteous run to it and are safe.” True security comes from trusting in God, not ourselves.
NEW TESTAMENT CONNECTION
Jesus echoes the wisdom of Proverbs in Luke 18:9–14, the Parable of the Pharisee and the Tax Collector. The Pharisee, full of pride, thanks God that he is better than others. The tax collector, in humility, simply prays, “God, have mercy on me, a sinner.” Jesus says the humble man, not the proud one, went home justified before God.
Similarly, James 4:6 teaches, “God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” This is the same truth found in Proverbs—pride leads to downfall, but humility invites God's grace and wisdom.
Just like in Proverbs, Jesus shows that pride leads to destruction, while humility opens the door to God’s blessing.
THINK ABOUT THIS
Have you ever experienced a moment when your pride led to a mistake or a difficult situation? Perhaps you overestimated your abilities or refused to ask for help when you needed it. These experiences can serve as valuable lessons, teaching us the wisdom of approaching life with humility.
Consider the following quote by C.S. Lewis: "Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it's thinking of yourself less." This perspective encourages us to shift our focus from self-importance to serving others and glorifying God. It reminds us that true strength comes from recognizing our limitations and relying on God's guidance.
Another thought-provoking quote comes from Rick Warren: "Humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less often. "As we reflect on these words, we might ask ourselves: How can we cultivate a spirit of humility in our daily lives? How might our relationships and community be transformed if we approached each day with a humble heart? Remember, the name of the Lord is a fortified tower; the righteous run to it and are safe. This verse reminds us that our ultimate security and strength come not from our own abilities or status, but from our trust in God. By embracing humility, we open ourselves to His protection and guidance.
LEAD-IN QUESTION:
"Think about a time you saw someone being overly proud or boastful. What was your reaction, and what eventually happened to them or the situation?"
-"Remember the story of the Tortoise and the Hare? The Hare was so proud of his speed that he underestimated the Tortoise and lost the race. Pride often leads to a fall, just like it did for the Hare."
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
Question: Proverbs 16:5 says, "The Lord detests all the proud of heart. Be sure of this: They will not go unpunished." Why do you think God feels so strongly about pride?
—Pride is essentially putting ourselves before God. It's thinking we know better or are more important. It blinds us to our own weaknesses and our need for God. God is all about humility, so pride is the opposite of what He desires for us. The verse reminds us there are consequences to pride, both in this life and the next.
Question: Proverbs 16:18 tells us, "Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall." Can you think of examples in the Bible or in history where someone's pride led to their downfall?
—Think of King Nebuchadnezzar in the Book of Daniel. His pride led him to believe he was greater than God, and he was humbled. Or consider the story of the Tower of Babel in Genesis. The people’s pride in building a tower to reach heaven resulted in God confusing their languages and scattering them. These examples show us the destructive nature of pride.
Question: Proverbs 16:19 contrasts pride with humility: "Better to be lowly in spirit along with the oppressed than to share plunder with the proud." What does this verse tell us about the value of humility?
—This verse emphasizes that true success and blessing come from humility, not from worldly gain achieved through pride. It's better to be humble and associate with those who are struggling than to gain wealth or power through arrogant and selfish actions. Humility aligns us with God's values and brings true, lasting rewards.
Question: Proverbs 18:10 says, "The name of the Lord is a fortified tower; the righteous run to it and are safe." How does humility connect with seeking refuge in God?
—When we are humble, we recognize our need for God's protection and guidance. We understand that we can't face life's challenges on our own. Like running to a strong tower for safety, we run to God's name – His character, His promises – for refuge. Pride, on the other hand, makes us think we don't need help, keeping us from seeking God’s strength.
Question: How can we cultivate humility in our daily lives? What are some practical steps we can take?
—Humility isn't something that comes naturally to most of us. It’s a conscious effort. We can practice humility by:
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The book of Proverbs isn't a list of rules, but rather wise sayings that offer guidance for navigating life. These proverbs on humility and pride are just as relevant today as they were thousands of years ago. We live in a culture that often celebrates self-promotion and ambition, making it easy to fall into the trap of pride. However, Proverbs reminds us that true success and blessing come from humility. As C.S. Lewis wrote, "Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less." This means focusing on serving others, acknowledging our dependence on God, and recognizing that our gifts and talents come from Him.
Practically, this could mean choosing to listen more than we speak, being quick to forgive, and readily admitting when we're wrong. It might involve volunteering our time to help those in need, even if it means sacrificing our own comfort. Mother Teresa exemplified this beautifully, saying, "Humility is the mother of all virtues; purity, charity and obedience. It is in being equal with all men that God is able to unite us to Himself." By cultivating humility, we create space for God to work in our lives and through us. We open ourselves up to His guidance and protection, finding true strength in His name, which Proverbs 18:10 describes as a "strong tower." When we face challenges, we can run to Him, knowing that He is our refuge and our source of peace. This is the wisdom of Proverbs in action – living a life grounded in humility, trusting in God's provision, and experiencing the blessings that come from aligning ourselves with His ways.
SERIOUSLY THINKING- Growing Traits in the Person Who Learns from- Proverbs 16–18
→Trait →Description →Scripture Reference
→Humility Before God →Acknowledging dependence on God and submitting personal plans to His will. →Proverbs 16:3 – “Commit to the Lord whatever you do…”
→Teachability →Remaining open to correction and learning, recognizing that growth comes through instruction and reproof. →Proverbs 16:20 – “Whoever gives heed to instruction prospers…”
→Guarded Speech →Speaking with caution and respect, especially when dealing with conflict, knowing that pride often shows in careless words. →Proverbs 17:27 – “The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint…”
→Gentle Strength →Choosing calm, patient responses over anger or arrogance, showing strength under control. →Proverbs 16:32 – “Better a patient person than a warrior…”
→Desire for Peace →Letting go of ego and avoiding needless disputes; choosing peace over being “right.” →Proverbs 17:14 – “Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam…”
→Awareness of Consequences →Recognizing that pride leads to downfall, and wisdom involves understanding the long-term impact of one's attitude and actions. →Proverbs 18:12 – “Before a downfall the heart is haughty…”
TAKE-HOME THOUGHT
The message of Proverbs 16-18 about humility and pride is woven throughout the entire Bible. From the Old Testament prophets who warned against arrogance to Jesus's own example of humble service, we see that God consistently lifts up the humble and resists the proud. This isn't just about outward behavior; it's about a heart attitude. God looks at the heart, and He desires a heart that is humble and contrite. When we cultivate humility, we align ourselves with God's character and His purposes. We become vessels through which He can work, bringing His love and grace to a world that desperately needs it.
Ultimately, the call to humility is a call to surrender. It's about recognizing that we are not in control, but that God is. It's about trusting in His wisdom and His plan for our lives, even when we don't understand it. As we go about our daily lives, let us remember the wisdom of Proverbs. Let us choose humility over pride, knowing that in doing so, we are choosing the path that leads to true joy, fulfillment, and a deeper relationship with our loving God.
Session 7: Wise Relationships - Proverbs 19–21
READ - Proverbs 19–21
OVERVIEW
In Session 7, we delve into Proverbs 19-21, which offer guidance on cultivating wise relationships, emphasizing the importance of friendship, trust, family relationships, justice, and mercy. These chapters highlight the value of trustworthy friendships, the influence of family dynamics, and the role of justice and mercy in living a righteous life. "The righteous lead blameless lives; blessed are their children after them" (Proverbs 20:7). Pastor Charles Stanley notes, "Wise relationships are built on trust, integrity, and compassion, reflecting God's character in our lives."
THOUGHT BY THOUGHT
Friendship and Trust: Proverbs 20:6 underscores the value of trustworthy friends. "Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find?" This principle teaches the rarity and value of true loyalty and faithfulness in friendships. Pastor Rick Warren emphasizes, "True friends are those who stand by you in all circumstances, offering support and loyalty that reflect God's steadfast love." Proverbs 19:20 adds, "Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise." Seeking and valuing wise counsel strengthens friendships built on trust and mutual respect.
The Impact of Family Relationships: Proverbs 19:18 emphasizes the importance of discipline and guidance within the family. "Discipline your children, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to their death." This verse highlights the role of parents in guiding their children toward wisdom and righteousness. Christian author John Maxwell states, "Family relationships significantly influence our character and values; nurturing a loving and disciplined environment fosters growth in wisdom and integrity." Proverbs 20:7 reinforces this idea, stating, "The righteous lead blameless lives; blessed are their children after them."
The Role of Justice and Mercy: Proverbs 21:3 highlights the importance of justice and mercy in living a righteous life. "To do what is right and just is more acceptable to the Lord than sacrifice." This principle emphasizes that God values righteousness, justice, and mercy over mere religious rituals. Theologian John Calvin remarked, "True righteousness involves acting justly and showing mercy, reflecting God's character in our interactions with others." Proverbs 21:21 further states, "Whoever pursues righteousness and love finds life, prosperity, and honor." Embracing justice and mercy leads to a fulfilling and honorable life.
By reflecting on these biblical principles, we can gain a deeper understanding of the importance of cultivating wise relationships, nurturing family dynamics, and embodying justice and mercy. Proverbs 19-21 offer timeless wisdom that guides us in living a life that honors God and reflects His character.
KEY THOUGHTS
Wisdom in Friendships – Proverbs warns that unreliable friends bring harm, but a true friend is loyal and trustworthy (Proverbs 19:4, 6-7).
Family Influence – A wise child brings joy, but a foolish one brings sorrow. Discipline and guidance help shape character (Proverbs 19:13-18).
Justice and Mercy – Proverbs highlights the importance of honesty, fairness, and kindness in dealing with others (Proverbs 21:3, 13, 21).
God’s Sovereignty – While people make their own plans, God is ultimately in control (Proverbs 19:21; 21:30-31).
TELL THE STORY
Let’s imagine a small town where two neighbors, John and Mark, have been best friends for years. John always helps Mark with his garden, and Mark helps John fix things around the house. But one day, Mark gets a sudden financial blessing, and suddenly, lots of people start coming around him, acting like his friends. These new “friends” disappear when he needs help, while John remains by his side.
This is just like Proverbs 19:4: “Wealth attracts many friends, but even the closest friend of the poor person deserts them.”
In the same town, a father named Sam has two sons. One is responsible and listens to advice, while the other makes reckless choices. The wise son brings peace to the family, but the foolish son causes stress and sadness. This reflects Proverbs 19:13: “A foolish child is a father’s ruin.”
Finally, there is a judge in town. He has two cases: one involves a rich man trying to bribe his way out of trouble, while the other is a widow asking for justice. The judge remembers Proverbs 21:3: “To do what is right and just is more acceptable to the Lord than sacrifice.” He chooses to be fair, upholding justice rather than being swayed by money.
These examples show how relationships—whether friendships, family, or justice—are shaped by wisdom, trust, and godly character.
NEW TESTAMENT CONNECTION
Proverbs teaches that true friendship is based on trust and loyalty, just like Jesus demonstrated with His disciples. In John 15:13, Jesus says, “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” Jesus models the ultimate friendship by sacrificing Himself for us.
In terms of family relationships, Proverbs emphasizes wisdom and discipline, much like Ephesians 6:1-4, where Paul instructs children to obey their parents and parents to guide their children in the Lord.
Finally, Proverbs calls for justice and mercy, which connects to Matthew 23:23, where Jesus rebukes the Pharisees for focusing on legalism while neglecting justice, mercy, and faithfulness. True wisdom isn’t just knowing what’s right—it’s doing what’s right with a heart full of love and fairness.
By living out these principles, we reflect God’s wisdom in all our relationships!
THINK ABOUT THIS
Have you ever had a friend who was there for you no matter what? Or maybe you've had someone who disappeared when times got tough? Proverbs 19:4 reminds us, “Wealth attracts many friends, but even the closest friend of the poor person deserts them.”
Think back to a time when you needed help—maybe during an illness, a financial struggle, or a personal loss. Who showed up? Who stood by your side when you had nothing to give in return? That’s the kind of friend Proverbs calls us to be.
The same is true for family. Proverbs 19:13 says, “A foolish child is a father’s ruin, and a quarrelsome wife is like the constant dripping of a leaky roof.” We all know how one person’s choices can bring peace or stress into a home. Have you ever experienced the blessing of a wise family member—or the challenge of dealing with constant conflict?
And what about justice and mercy? Proverbs 21:3 says, “To do what is right and just is more acceptable to the Lord than sacrifice.” God cares more about how we treat people than how often we go to church or give an offering. Can you recall a time when you had the chance to show kindness instead of judgment?
As we reflect on these verses, let’s ask ourselves:
Who in my life has been a true friend? How can I be that kind of friend to someone else?
How can I bring peace and wisdom into my family instead of conflict?
Where can I choose justice and mercy in my daily life?
A Quote to Ponder:
"The best way to keep friendships from breaking is not to drop them." — Unknown
or
"Do not let loyalty and faithfulness forsake you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart." — Proverbs 3:3
May we walk in wisdom, treating others with love, trust, and justice, just as God calls us to do!
LEAD-IN QUESTION:
Question: Think about a time when someone was truly there for you, a real friend. What made that friendship so special?
—"A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity." (Proverbs 17:17) This verse reminds us that true friends stick with us through thick and thin. Can you share a story of a friend who exemplified this kind of loyalty?-
DISCUSSION QUESTION:
Question: Proverbs talks a lot about the importance of trust in relationships. Why is trust so crucial, and how do we build it?
—Trust is the foundation of any strong relationship, whether it's with a friend, family member, or even God. It's built over time through consistent actions, honesty, and keeping our promises. Small acts of kindness and support can go a long way in building trust. Think about specific examples of how trust has been built (or broken) in your own life.
Question: Proverbs 19:17 says, "Whoever is kind to the poor lends to the Lord, and he will repay them for what they have done." What does this verse tell us about how God views those who are less fortunate?
—This verse isn't just about giving money. It's about having a heart of compassion for those in need. It reminds us that everyone is valuable in God's eyes. When we show kindness to the poor and vulnerable, we are reflecting God's love. How can we show kindness to those in need in our community? It might be through volunteering, donating, or simply offering a listening ear.
Question: Proverbs 20:6 asks, "Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find?" Why is it sometimes hard to find truly faithful friends?
—People are imperfect, and sometimes they let us down. True faithfulness requires commitment, honesty, and the ability to stick with someone even when things are tough. It's a rare and precious quality. How can we be the kind of faithful friend that others can rely on?
Question: Proverbs 21:3 reminds us, “To do what is right and just is more acceptable to the Lord than sacrifice.” What does this mean to you?
—This verse emphasizes that outward religious rituals are not as important to God as living a life of integrity and fairness. God wants us to be just in our dealings with others and to treat everyone with respect. How can we apply this principle to our everyday lives? Perhaps it's by being honest in our business dealings, treating our neighbors with kindness, or standing up for what is right.
Question: How do the teachings in Proverbs about relationships connect with Jesus's teachings in the New Testament about loving our neighbors?
—The Old Testament, especially Proverbs, lays the foundation for the New Testament. Proverbs teaches the importance of kindness, justice, and mercy, which are all essential elements of Jesus's teaching to "love your neighbor as yourself." Jesus expands on these principles, calling us to love even our enemies. How does Jesus’s example of love challenge or expand upon the wisdom found in Proverbs?
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Christians today can apply the principles from Proverbs 19-21 by cultivating trustworthy friendships, nurturing family relationships, and embodying justice and mercy in their daily lives. Proverbs 20:6 highlights the rarity and value of true loyalty and faithfulness in friendships: "Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find?" Pastor Rick Warren emphasizes, "True friends are those who stand by you in all circumstances, offering support and loyalty that reflect God's steadfast love." By prioritizing and fostering relationships built on trust, we reflect the loyalty and faithfulness that God desires for His people.
Family relationships are another vital aspect of wise living. Proverbs 19:18 encourages guiding and disciplining children: "Discipline your children, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to their death." Christian author John Maxwell notes, "Family relationships significantly influence our character and values; nurturing a loving and disciplined environment fosters growth in wisdom and integrity." By investing in strong family bonds and providing loving guidance, we create a foundation for future generations to grow in wisdom and righteousness.
Moreover, embodying justice and mercy is crucial for living a life that honors God. Proverbs 21:3 states, "To do what is right and just is more acceptable to the Lord than sacrifice." Theologian John Calvin remarked, "True righteousness involves acting justly and showing mercy, reflecting God's character in our interactions with others." By pursuing justice and mercy in our actions and decisions, we align ourselves with God's heart and demonstrate His love to those around us.
SERIOUSLY THINKING- Growing Traits in the Person Who Learns from- Proverbs 19–21
→Trait →Description →Scripture Reference
→Loyalty and Kindness →Practicing steadfast love and kindness in relationships, valuing commitment over convenience. →Proverbs 19:22 – “What a person desires is unfailing love…”
→Patience with Others →Responding with calm and grace instead of anger, especially when wronged. →Proverbs 19:11 – “A person’s wisdom yields patience…”
→Discipline in Parenting and Mentorship →Providing loving correction and guidance to others, especially to children or those in one’s care. →Proverbs 19:18 – “Discipline your children, for in that there is hope…”
→Avoidance of Strife →Choosing to de-escalate rather than fuel arguments; being known as a peacemaker. →Proverbs 20:3 – “It is to one’s honor to avoid strife…”
→Faithful Friendship →Being trustworthy, dependable, and honest in friendships, not using others for gain. →Proverbs 20:6 – “Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find?”
→Justice and Fairness →Treating others equitably, advocating for fairness, and not showing favoritism based on status or gain. →Proverbs 21:3 – “To do what is right and just is more acceptable to the Lord than sacrifice.”
TAKE-HOME THOUGHT
The bigger picture of God’s plan associated with Proverbs 19-21 reveals His desire for His people to cultivate wise and loving relationships, both with friends and family, and to live lives characterized by justice and mercy. These principles are not merely suggestions but foundational aspects of a life that reflects God's character and honors His will. "The righteous lead blameless lives; blessed are their children after them" (Proverbs 20:7). By nurturing trustworthy friendships, guiding family relationships with love and discipline, and embodying justice and mercy, we participate in God's redemptive work in the world.
Reflecting on these chapters, we see that wise relationships are integral to living a life that honors God. True friendships, loving family dynamics, and a commitment to justice and mercy not only enrich our lives but also positively impact those around us. "Whoever pursues righteousness and love finds life, prosperity, and honor" (Proverbs 21:21). By understanding and embracing these truths, we can find hope, direction, and purpose in our relationship with God.
Applying these principles helps us navigate life with confidence and assurance, knowing that our actions and relationships reflect God's wisdom and love. Embracing the lessons from Proverbs 19-21 enables us to live lives that are fulfilling, impactful, and aligned with God's perfect plan.
Session 8: The Power of Self-Control - Proverbs 22–24
READ - Proverbs 22–24
OVERVIEW
Proverbs 22-24 offer timeless wisdom on the power of self-control, focusing on the importance of training children in wisdom, warnings against laziness and drunkenness, and the necessity of controlling our desires. These chapters emphasize that self-discipline and wisdom are crucial for living a righteous and fulfilling life. "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it" (Proverbs 22:6). Pastor Charles Stanley remarks, "Investing in the spiritual and moral development of children establishes a foundation for a life of faith and integrity."
THOUGHT BY THOUGHT
Training Up a Child in Wisdom: Proverbs 22:6 teaches the importance of guiding children in the right path. "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it." This principle highlights that instilling wisdom and godly values in children sets the foundation for their future behavior and decisions. Pastor Rick Warren emphasizes, "The investment we make in teaching our children God's ways has lasting implications, guiding them toward a life of faith and righteousness."
Warnings About Laziness and Drunkenness: Proverbs 23:21 warns against the dangers of laziness and excessive drinking. "For drunkards and gluttons become poor, and drowsiness clothes them in rags." This verse underscores that a lack of self-control leads to negative consequences such as poverty and ruin. Theologian John Calvin noted, "Laziness and intemperance hinder our ability to live productive and godly lives. Self-control is essential for fulfilling God's purpose." Proverbs 24:30-34 also cautions against laziness, describing the consequences of neglecting one's duties.
Learning to Control Our Desires: Proverbs 25:28 emphasizes the importance of self-control. "Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control." This metaphor illustrates the vulnerability and chaos that result from a lack of self-control. Christian author John Maxwell states, "Self-control is the ability to manage our actions, thoughts, and emotions in a way that honors God and reflects His character." By exercising self-discipline, we maintain spiritual and moral integrity.
KEY THOUGHTS
Wisdom Begins Early – Proverbs 22:6 reminds us that teaching children wisdom and godly values will guide them throughout their lives.
Laziness Leads to Poverty – Proverbs warns that neglecting responsibilities results in hardship, while diligence leads to stability (Proverbs 24:30-34).
Drunkenness and Overindulgence – A lack of self-control in drinking and eating can bring ruin (Proverbs 23:20-21).
The Danger of Envy and Greed – Wanting what others have can lead to poor decisions and dissatisfaction (Proverbs 23:17).
Self-Control is a Path to Peace – Proverbs teaches that wisdom and self-restraint lead to a life of peace and blessing (Proverbs 22:11).
TELL THE STORY
Imagine a wise grandfather sitting with his grandchildren. He tells them, “Life is full of choices. If you learn early to do what is right, it will help you all your days.” He shares Proverbs 22:6, saying, “If we teach children good habits and godly wisdom, it will stay with them.”
Then, he tells of a lazy farmer who let weeds take over his fields (Proverbs 24:30-34). "He slept when he should have worked, and soon his farm was ruined."
Next, he warns about a man who spent his days drinking instead of working (Proverbs 23:20-21). "He started with one drink, then two, and before he knew it, he had lost everything."
Lastly, he tells of a young man who always wanted what others had (Proverbs 23:17). “Instead of being grateful for what he had, he was always chasing after more. But no matter how much he got, he was never happy.”
Then, the grandfather leans in and says, “The key to a good life is self-control. When we make wise choices, work hard, and trust God, we will live in peace.”
NEW TESTAMENT CONNECTION
The wisdom of Proverbs connects beautifully with the teachings of Jesus and Paul.
Training Up a Child – Jesus welcomed children and said, "Let the little children come to me... for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these” (Matthew 19:14). Just as Proverbs 22:6 teaches, early instruction in faith makes a lasting impact.
The Consequences of Laziness – Paul warns in 2 Thessalonians 3:10, "The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat." Hard work and diligence are part of a godly life.
Avoiding Drunkenness – Paul echoes Proverbs when he writes, "Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit” (Ephesians 5:18).
The Power of Self-Control – Galatians 5:22-23 lists self-control as a fruit of the Spirit. When we follow God’s wisdom, we can master our desires and live in His peace.
Self-control is a gift from God. By listening to His wisdom, working diligently, and guarding our hearts against temptation, we can live joyful, peaceful lives that honor Him.
THINK ABOUT THIS
Imagine a time when you were in a grocery store with a small child—maybe a grandchild, a niece or nephew, or even just watching someone else’s child. You get to the checkout line, and right there at eye level is a row of candy bars. The child’s eyes light up, and soon, the pleading begins:
"Can I have one? Please? Just one?"
You know the child has already had enough sugar for the day. You gently say, "Not today." But what happens next? Do they accept it calmly? Or do they cross their arms, stomp their feet, or even shed a few tears?
Self-control
isn’t something we’re born with—it’s something we learn.
Proverbs 22:6 reminds us:
"Start
children off on the way they
should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it."
But the truth is, we adults need reminders about self-control, too. The Bible warns us about laziness, drunkenness, and giving in to our desires (Proverbs 23:19-21). Sometimes, self-control means saying no to something that seems good at the moment but isn’t good for us in the long run.
Think about a time when you had to practice self-control. Maybe you wanted to say something unkind in frustration, but you held your tongue. Maybe you resisted a temptation that would have led you down a difficult path. Looking back, did self-control bring peace? Did it protect you from trouble?
The wisdom of Proverbs teaches us that self-control isn’t about missing out—it’s about gaining something greater: a life that honors God and leads to peace.
A Few Quotes on Self-Control
—"Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control." — Proverbs 25:28
—"Discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want most." — Unknown
—"You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength." — Marcus Aurelius
—Discussion Question: Can you think of a time when self-control helped you avoid a bad situation? Or a time when a lack of self-control caused regret? How did God’s wisdom guide you?
LEAD-IN QUESTION:
Question: Think back to when you were raising your kids or grandkids. What's one piece of advice you received (or gave) about raising children that really stuck with you?
Practical Example/Quote: "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it." - Proverbs 22:6 This verse is a classic, and we'll be talking about what "training" really means today.
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
Question: Proverbs 22:6 talks about training up a child. What are some practical ways we "train" children in wisdom, even today? It's not just about discipline, is it?
—This can go beyond just parents. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, and even older members of the church can play a role. Discussing modeling good behavior, teaching about God, and helping kids learn right from wrong are all important. It's about instilling values.
Question: Proverbs talks a lot about laziness. Why do you think the Bible warns against laziness so much? What's the big deal? (Think Proverbs 24:30-34)
—Laziness isn't just about being physically inactive. It can be mental or spiritual too. It can keep us from doing what God wants us to do, and it can hurt us and the people around us. It can lead to neglect and missed opportunities. Relate this to our lives even as seniors; are there things we put off that we shouldn't?
Question: Proverbs also warns about drunkenness. Why is this such a serious issue? (Think Proverbs 23:29-35).
—This isn't just about the physical dangers. Drunkenness impairs our judgment, and it can lead us to do things we regret. It can also damage relationships and our witness as Christians. Discuss the importance of clear thinking and self-control. Even if no one struggles with alcohol, we can talk about other things that can "intoxicate" us, like overworking or obsession with hobbies, things that take our focus off God.
Question: Proverbs 23:17-18 talks about the heart being "envious of sinners." Why do you think we sometimes feel jealous of those who seem to be living without God's rules? How can we combat those feelings?
—It's easy to look at others and think they have it easier, especially if they aren't following God's way. Discuss how true joy and lasting happiness come from following God, not from worldly things. Focus on gratitude for the blessings God has given each of us.
Question: The overall theme of these chapters is self-control. What's one area of your life where you think you could use a little more self-control? How can we, as a group, support each other in growing in this area?
—This could range from controlling our tongue (gossip), to managing our time (avoiding procrastination), to practicing patience (especially as we age). Encourage vulnerability and offer to pray for one another. This is a lifelong process, and we all need support.
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Christians today can apply the principles from Proverbs 22-24 by focusing on the importance of self-control, wisdom, and discipline in various aspects of life. Proverbs 22:6 emphasizes the importance of training up a child in wisdom: "Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it." This verse teaches us that instilling wisdom and godly values in children is crucial for their development and future. Pastor Rick Warren explains, "Teaching children godly principles from an early age sets the foundation for a life of integrity and faith."
In addition to training up children, Proverbs 23:20-21 warns against laziness and drunkenness: "Do not join those who drink too much wine or gorge themselves on meat, for drunkards and gluttons become poor, and drowsiness clothes them in rags." This principle highlights the consequences of a lack of self-control and the importance of leading a disciplined life. Christian author John Maxwell notes, "Self-control is a vital aspect of a godly character, enabling us to live responsibly and avoid the pitfalls of excess and indulgence."
Learning to control our desires is another key aspect of self-control. Proverbs 25:28 states, "Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control." This imagery illustrates the vulnerability and chaos that result from a lack of self-discipline. Pastor Charles Stanley emphasizes, "Developing self-control is essential for maintaining a strong and resilient character, protecting us from the destructive consequences of unchecked desires."
SERIOUSLY THINKING- Growing Traits in the Person Who Learns from- Proverbs 22–24
→Trait →Description →Scripture Reference
→Self-Discipline →Developing the strength to say no to impulsive desires and yes to what is wise, even when it's hard. →Proverbs 23:4 – “Do not wear yourself out to get rich…”
→Control over Anger →Choosing restraint instead of retaliation, showing strength by mastering one's temper. →Proverbs 22:24–25 – “Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person…”
→Resisting Envy and Greed →Being content with what you have instead of striving after what others possess or wealth that corrupts. →Proverbs 24:1 – “Do not envy the wicked…”
→Wise Planning →Thinking ahead and acting with foresight, rather than reacting impulsively or without direction. →Proverbs 24:27 – “Put your outdoor work in order…”
→Moderation →Avoiding overindulgence in food, drink, wealth, or pleasure, and pursuing balance in all things. →Proverbs 23:20–21 – “Do not join those who drink too much wine…”
→Courage to Withstand Pressure →Standing firm in what is right, even when culture or people try to persuade you otherwise. →Proverbs 24:10 – “If you falter in a time of trouble, how small is your strength!”
TAKE-HOME THOUGHT
The bigger picture of God’s plan associated with Proverbs 22-24 reveals His desire for His people to live lives characterized by wisdom, discipline, and self-control. These principles are not just rules to follow but guidelines for a fulfilling and godly life. "The teaching of the wise is a fountain of life, turning a person from the snares of death" (Proverbs 13:14). Reflecting on these verses, we see that self-control and discipline are essential for living a life that honors God and reflects His character.
Moreover, the emphasis on training up children, avoiding laziness and drunkenness, and controlling our desires highlights the importance of nurturing godly values and maintaining a disciplined lifestyle. "Whoever heeds discipline shows the way to life, but whoever ignores correction leads others astray" (Proverbs 10:17). By embracing these principles, we can guide ourselves and others toward a life of righteousness and fulfillment.
By understanding and applying these truths, we can find hope, direction, and purpose in our relationship with God. Embracing the lessons from Proverbs 22-24 helps us live a life that reflects God's wisdom and character, leading to a fulfilling and impactful existence.
Session 9: Living with Integrity - Proverbs 25–27
READ - Proverbs 25–27
OVERVIEW
Proverbs 25-27 emphasize the significance of living with integrity, focusing on honesty, wise conflict resolution, and the value of true friendship and accountability. These chapters provide practical wisdom for maintaining righteous relationships and personal integrity. "An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips" (Proverbs 24:26). Pastor Rick Warren notes, "Honesty and integrity are the foundation of trust and respect in all relationships."
THOUGHT BY THOUGHT
The Importance of Honesty: Proverbs 26:28 highlights the destructive nature of deceit. "A lying tongue hates those it hurts, and a flattering mouth works ruin." This principle teaches that dishonesty harms relationships and erodes trust. Christian author John Maxwell states, "Honesty is a vital component of integrity; it builds trust and ensures that our actions align with our values." Proverbs 25:18 also underscores this, "Like a club or a sword or a sharp arrow is one who gives false testimony against a neighbor." Embracing honesty is crucial for maintaining integrity and fostering healthy relationships.
Handling Conflict with Wisdom: Proverbs 26:20-21 provides guidance on managing conflict. "Without wood a fire goes out; without a gossip a quarrel dies down. As charcoal to embers and as wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome person for kindling strife." This principle emphasizes the importance of avoiding gossip and quarreling to resolve conflicts peacefully. Pastor Charles Stanley notes, "Wisdom in handling conflict involves promoting peace and avoiding actions that fuel discord." Proverbs 27:6 further states, "Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses." Honest and constructive feedback from friends is essential for personal growth and conflict resolution.
True Friendship and Accountability: Proverbs 27:17 highlights the value of true friendship and accountability. "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another." This principle emphasizes the importance of mutual support and accountability in friendships. Pastor Timothy Keller explains, "True friendship involves challenging and encouraging each other to grow in faith and character." Proverbs 27:9 also underscores this, "Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of a friend springs from their heartfelt advice." Building relationships based on honesty and accountability strengthens our integrity and spiritual growth.
By reflecting on these biblical principles, we can gain a deeper understanding of the importance of honesty, wise conflict resolution, and true friendship. Proverbs 25-27 offer timeless wisdom that guides us in living a life of integrity and honoring God in all our relationships.
KEY THOUGHTS
Honesty Builds Trust – Proverbs 25:18 warns that lying is like a weapon that harms others. Integrity means telling the truth even when it's difficult.
Wisdom in Conflict – Proverbs 26:20 says that conflict dies down when gossip stops. Handling disagreements with wisdom means avoiding unnecessary arguments and seeking peace.
True Friendship and Accountability – Proverbs 27:17 reminds us that just as iron sharpens iron, good friends help each other grow in faith and character.
TELL THE STORY
Proverbs 25–27 gives practical advice about living with honesty, handling conflict, and maintaining strong friendships. These chapters remind us that our words and actions shape our relationships.
Imagine two neighbors who get into an argument. One spreads gossip, making the conflict worse. The other chooses honesty and kindness, helping to bring peace. Proverbs teaches that our choices—whether in truthfulness, wisdom, or friendship—affect not just our own lives, but also the lives of those around us.
Integrity isn’t just about avoiding bad behavior; it’s about choosing to live in a way that honors God and blesses others.
NEW TESTAMENT CONNECTION
Jesus teaches about honesty and integrity in Matthew 5:37, saying, “Let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’” This means that as Christians, we should be truthful and trustworthy in all we do.
Paul also speaks about relationships in Ephesians 4:25, saying, “Each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor.” Like Proverbs, this verse reminds us that honesty strengthens relationships and honors God.
When it comes to friendship, Jesus gives the perfect example in John 15:13, saying, “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” True friends encourage, support, and challenge each other in faith—just as Proverbs 27:17 teaches about iron sharpening iron.
By following these biblical principles, we can live with integrity, handle conflicts wisely, and build strong, godly friendships.
THINK ABOUT THIS
Have you ever borrowed something from a friend and forgotten to return it? Maybe it was a book, a tool, or even just a kind word you meant to say. Proverbs 25:14 warns us about making promises we don’t keep:
"Like clouds and wind without rain is one who boasts of gifts never given." (Proverbs 25:14, NIV)
When we say we’ll do something and don’t follow through, it can disappoint others and damage trust. Integrity means being honest, keeping our word, and doing what’s right—even when no one is watching.
Think about a time when someone’s honesty strengthened your trust in them. Maybe a friend admitted a mistake, or a family member told you the truth even when it was hard. That kind of honesty builds strong relationships.
On the other hand, have you ever been caught in a small lie? Maybe you said, “I’ll pray for you,” but then forgot. Proverbs 26:28 reminds us:
"A lying tongue hates those it hurts, and a flattering mouth works ruin."
Integrity isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being real. When we live honestly and wisely, we reflect Christ’s character and build trust with those around us.
LEAD-IN QUESTION:
Question: Think about a time someone was truly honest with you, even when it was a little difficult. How did that make you feel about them?
— "Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom." - Thomas Jefferson (While not from the Bible, this quote gets the point across simply.) We value honesty, right? Proverbs has a lot to say about it.
DISCUSSION QUESTION:
Question: Proverbs 25:11 talks about "a word fitly spoken." What does that mean to you? Have you ever experienced someone saying just the right thing at the right time?
—This verse highlights the power of our words. A "word fitly spoken" is like a beautiful piece of jewelry – it's valuable and adds to the situation. It means choosing our words carefully and speaking with kindness and wisdom. Think of how a comforting word to someone grieving can mean so much.
Question: Proverbs 25:21-22 talks about how to treat an enemy. It sounds a little unusual. What do you think it means to "heap burning coals" on their head?
—This isn't about being mean! The "burning coals" likely refer to acts of kindness. When we show kindness to someone who has wronged us, it can make them feel ashamed of their actions. It’s about responding to negativity with love, which is a powerful way to change a situation. It’s also about leaving the judgement to God.
Question: Proverbs 27:6 says, "Wounds from a friend can be trusted." Why do you think that's true? Have you ever had a friend tell you something hard to hear, but it was ultimately helpful?
—True friends care enough to be honest with us, even when it's uncomfortable. They aren't afraid to tell us the truth, even if it hurts a little, because they want what's best for us. This shows real love and concern. It is different than someone just being mean.
Question: Proverbs 27:9 compares friendship to perfume and incense. What does that tell us about the value of good friendships?
—Perfume and incense were precious and delightful in Bible times. This verse tells us that true friendships are valuable and add sweetness to our lives. They lift us up and make our lives richer. Just like a good smell can make you feel good, good friends can make you feel good.
Question: Proverbs 27:17 says, "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another." How do our friendships help us grow?
—Iron sharpening iron means that rubbing two pieces of iron together makes them both sharper. In the same way, our friends can challenge us, encourage us, and help us become better people. We can learn from each other and grow in our faith together. We can help each other and make each other stronger.
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Christians today can apply the principles from Proverbs 25-27 by prioritizing honesty, resolving conflicts wisely, and fostering true friendships that include accountability. Proverbs 26:28 warns about the harm of deceit: "A lying tongue hates those it hurts, and a flattering mouth works ruin." Pastor Rick Warren emphasizes, "Honesty and integrity are foundational for trust and respect in all relationships." By committing to truthfulness in our interactions, we build trust and maintain integrity.
Handling conflict with wisdom is another vital principle. Proverbs 26:20-21 advises against gossip and quarreling: "Without wood a fire goes out; without a gossip a quarrel dies down. As charcoal to embers and as wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome person for kindling strife." Pastor Charles Stanley notes, "Wisdom in handling conflict involves promoting peace and avoiding actions that fuel discord." By approaching conflicts with a peacemaking attitude and avoiding gossip, we can resolve issues constructively and maintain harmony.
True friendship and accountability are also crucial. Proverbs 27:17 says, "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another." This principle underscores the importance of mutual support and accountability in friendships. Pastor Timothy Keller explains, "True friendship involves challenging and encouraging each other to grow in faith and character." By building relationships based on honesty and accountability, we help each other grow spiritually and morally.
SERIOUSLY THINKING- Growing Traits in the Person Who Learns from- Proverbs 25–27
→Trait →Description →Scripture Reference
→Honesty in Words and Actions →Being truthful and trustworthy in all situations, reflecting God’s nature through transparent living. →Proverbs 25:18 – “Like a club or a sword… is one who gives false testimony…”
→Respecting Boundaries →Honoring personal space, timing, and relational limits in interactions with others. →Proverbs 25:17 – “Seldom set foot in your neighbor’s house…”
→Humility in Recognition →Avoiding self-promotion and letting others praise your accomplishments, trusting God's timing for honor. →Proverbs 27:2 – “Let someone else praise you…”
→Faithfulness in Friendship →Being a steady, loving presence in relationships—even when hard truths must be spoken. →Proverbs 27:6 – “Wounds from a friend can be trusted…”
→Controlled Speech →Speaking with care, avoiding gossip, flattery, or boastful talk that undermines trust and credibility. →Proverbs 26:20 – “Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down.”
→Consistency in Character →Living the same in private and public, resisting hypocrisy, and pursuing holiness with integrity of heart. →Proverbs 25:26 – “Like a muddied spring is a righteous man who gives way to the wicked.”
TAKE-HOME THOUGHT
The bigger picture of God’s plan associated with Proverbs 25-27 reveals His desire for His people to live with integrity, characterized by honesty, wisdom in conflict resolution, and true, accountable friendships. These principles guide us to live righteously and reflect God's character in our interactions. "An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips" (Proverbs 24:26). By prioritizing honesty, we align ourselves with God's truth and build trust in our relationships.
Reflecting on these chapters, we see that wise conflict resolution and true friendships are integral to living a life that honors God. "Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses" (Proverbs 27:6). Constructive feedback and accountability from friends help us grow and maintain integrity. Embracing these principles helps us navigate life's challenges with confidence, knowing that our actions and relationships reflect God's wisdom and love.
By understanding and applying these truths, we can find hope, direction, and purpose in our relationship with God. Embracing the lessons from Proverbs 25-27 enables us to live lives that are fulfilling, impactful, and aligned with God's perfect plan.
Session 10: Strength & Character - Proverbs 28–29
READ - Proverbs 28–29
OVERVIEW
Proverbs 28-29 provide wisdom on various aspects of living a life of strength and character. These chapters emphasize the importance of trusting in God rather than wealth, the influence of leadership and authority, and the consequences of stubbornness. "Those who trust in themselves are fools, but those who walk in wisdom are kept safe" (Proverbs 28:26). Pastor Rick Warren notes, "True strength and character come from relying on God's wisdom and guidance rather than our own understanding or material wealth."
THOUGHT BY THOUGHT
Trusting in God vs. Trusting in Wealth: Proverbs 28:25-26 contrasts the outcomes of trusting in wealth versus trusting in God. "The greedy stir up conflict, but those who trust in the Lord will prosper. Those who trust in themselves are fools, but those who walk in wisdom are kept safe." This principle teaches that reliance on wealth leads to conflict and instability, while trusting in God brings true prosperity and security. Pastor Charles Stanley explains, "Wealth can create a false sense of security, but true confidence and peace come from trusting in God's provision and wisdom."
The Impact of Leadership and Authority: Proverbs 29:2 highlights the impact of righteous leadership. "When the righteous thrive, the people rejoice; when the wicked rule, the people groan." This principle emphasizes that the character and integrity of leaders significantly affect the well-being of their communities. Christian author John Maxwell states, "Leadership is about influence; righteous leaders create an environment where people can flourish, while corrupt leaders bring distress and suffering."
The Consequences of Stubbornness: Proverbs 29:1 warns about the consequences of stubbornness and refusal to accept correction. "Whoever remains stiff-necked after many rebukes will suddenly be destroyed—without remedy." This principle underscores the importance of being teachable and receptive to correction. Pastor Rick Warren notes, "Stubbornness and refusal to change can lead to downfall; humility and willingness to learn are key to personal growth and success."
By reflecting on these biblical principles, we can gain a deeper understanding of the importance of trusting in God, the impact of leadership, and the need for a teachable spirit. Proverbs 28-29 offer timeless wisdom that guides us in living a life of strength and character, honoring God in all we do.
KEY THOUGHTS:
Trusting in God vs. Trusting in Wealth – Proverbs warns that wealth is unreliable, but trusting in the Lord brings true security (Proverbs 28:25-26).
The Impact of Leadership and Authority – Righteous leaders bring stability, while corrupt rulers cause suffering (Proverbs 29:2, 29:4).
The Consequences of Stubbornness – Those who refuse correction will face ruin, while those who seek wisdom will thrive (Proverbs 29:1, 29:15).
TELL THE STORY:
Imagine two farmers. One works hard but trusts only in his wealth. He builds bigger barns, stores up riches, and believes his success is all his doing. The other farmer also works hard, but he honors God, shares his harvest, and trusts that God will provide for his needs. When a drought comes, the first farmer panics because his wealth cannot save him. The second farmer, however, remains calm, knowing that God is still in control.
Proverbs 28–29 teaches us that trusting in riches will leave us empty, but trusting in God brings peace. These chapters also remind us that leadership matters—good leaders bring peace, while bad ones bring trouble. Finally, Proverbs warns against stubbornness. When we ignore correction, we head for disaster, but if we listen to wisdom, we will grow stronger.
NEW TESTAMENT CONNECTION:
Jesus echoes these lessons in Matthew 6:19-21, where He says, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth… but store up for yourselves treasures in heaven.” Like Proverbs, Jesus teaches that wealth is temporary, but trusting in God lasts forever.
The impact of leadership is also seen in Luke 22:25-26, where Jesus tells His disciples that “the greatest among you should be like the youngest, and the one who rules like the one who serves.” True leadership is about serving others, not taking advantage of them.
Lastly, stubbornness is addressed in Hebrews 3:7-8, which warns, “Today, if you hear his voice, do not harden your hearts.” Just like Proverbs, the New Testament urges us to be teachable and open to God’s wisdom.
THINK ABOUT THIS
Have you ever held onto something so tightly, only to realize later that it wasn’t as important as you thought? Maybe it was money, a job, a position of authority, or even a personal opinion. Proverbs 28–29 reminds us that real strength and character come not from wealth, power, or stubbornness, but from trusting in God, leading with wisdom, and being open to correction.
Think about a time when you saw someone—maybe even yourself—trust in money or status instead of God. Did it bring lasting peace? Or did it eventually lead to worry and disappointment? Proverbs 28:26 says, “Those who trust in themselves are fools, but those who walk in wisdom are kept safe.”
Leadership and authority also have a huge impact on those around us. Have you ever had a boss, a pastor, or even a family member who led with wisdom and kindness? How did that affect you? On the other hand, what happens when leaders are selfish or dishonest? Proverbs 29:2 says, “When the righteous thrive, the people rejoice; when the wicked rule, the people groan.”
And then there’s stubbornness. We all have times when we don’t want to listen to correction. But the Bible warns that ignoring wisdom leads to destruction. Proverbs 29:1 puts it plainly: “Whoever remains stiff-necked after many rebukes will suddenly be destroyed—without remedy.” That’s a serious warning!
A Quote to Reflect On
C.S. Lewis once said, “Relying on God has to begin all over again every day as if nothing had yet been done.”
This reminds us that trusting God isn’t a one-time decision—it’s something we must do daily. Whether it’s our finances, our leadership, or our willingness to listen, Proverbs challenges us to seek wisdom and trust God above all else.
Reflection Questions:
Have you ever had to let go of something you were holding onto too tightly? What happened?
Can you think of a time when a wise leader made a positive difference in your life?
Why do you think we resist correction? How can we be more open to wisdom?
LEAD-IN QUESTION:
Question: Think about a time you saw someone make a really poor decision. What was the outcome, and what do you think led them to make that choice?
—"I remember when a friend of mine, bless her heart, invested her life savings in a 'get rich quick' scheme. It sounded too good to be true, and sadly, it was. She lost everything. Sometimes, we can be tempted by things that glitter, but aren't gold." (This opens the door to discuss trusting in wealth vs. God.)
DISCUSSION QUESTION:
Question: Proverbs 28:20 talks about a faithful person being richly blessed. What does it mean to be "faithful" in this context? Is it just going to church?
—Faithfulness isn't just about showing up on Sunday. It's about consistently living our lives in a way that honors God. It's about honesty, integrity, and trusting God even when things are tough. It's about relying on Him, not our bank accounts. Think of the story of Job. He lost everything, but his faith in God remained. That's true faithfulness.
Question: Proverbs 29:2 says, "When the righteous thrive, the people rejoice; when the wicked rule, the people groan." Have you seen examples of this in your own lives or in the news?
—Good leaders make a positive difference. They care about the people and try to do what's right. Bad leaders, on the other hand, can create chaos and suffering. Think about the leaders you admire. What qualities do they have that make them effective? What about leaders in the Bible? What made David a good, but not perfect, leader?
Question: Proverbs 29:1 tells us that a person who remains stubborn after many rebukes will suddenly be destroyed. What does it mean to be "stubborn," and why is it so dangerous?
—Stubbornness is refusing to listen to advice or correction, even when we know we're wrong. It's like putting our fingers in our ears and saying, "I'm not listening!" The Bible warns us that pride goes before a fall. Being stubborn keeps us from learning and growing. It can lead us down a destructive path. Have you ever had a time you were stubborn, and regretted it later?
Question: Proverbs 28:13 says, "Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy." Why is it important to admit our mistakes to God?
—We all make mistakes. No one is perfect. But when we try to hide our sins, it creates a barrier between us and God. Confessing our sins is like cleaning a wound. It might sting a little at first, but it's necessary for healing. When we confess and turn away from our sins, God promises to forgive us. His mercy is a wonderful gift. Remember the story of the prodigal son? His father welcomed him back with open arms after he admitted his mistakes.
Question: Proverbs 29:11 says, "Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm." How can we learn to control our anger and respond in a more thoughtful way?
—We all get angry sometimes. That's a normal human emotion. But we need to learn how to manage our anger in a healthy way. The Bible tells us to be "slow to anger." Think before you speak. Take a deep breath. Pray for God's help. Sometimes, just walking away for a few minutes can make a big difference. Think about Jesus. Even when he was angry, he always responded in a way that was loving and just.
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Christians today can apply the principles from Proverbs 28-29 by prioritizing trust in God over material wealth, recognizing the impact of righteous leadership, and cultivating a teachable spirit to avoid the pitfalls of stubbornness. Proverbs 28:26 warns, "Those who trust in themselves are fools, but those who walk in wisdom are kept safe." Pastor Charles Stanley explains, "Trusting in God's wisdom rather than our own understanding or wealth leads to true security and peace." By placing our faith in God's provision and guidance, we can experience His peace and protection.
Leadership and authority play a crucial role in shaping communities. Proverbs 29:2 states, "When the righteous thrive, the people rejoice; when the wicked rule, the people groan." Christian author John Maxwell emphasizes, "Righteous leaders create an environment where people can flourish, while corrupt leaders bring distress and suffering." By seeking and supporting godly leadership, we contribute to the well-being and prosperity of our communities.
The consequences of stubbornness are highlighted in Proverbs 29:1: "Whoever remains stiff-necked after many rebukes will suddenly be destroyed—without remedy." This verse teaches the importance of being teachable and receptive to correction. Pastor Rick Warren notes, "Humility and willingness to learn are key to personal growth and success, while stubbornness can lead to downfall." By cultivating a humble and teachable spirit, we can grow in wisdom and avoid the negative consequences of stubbornness.
SERIOUSLY THINKING- Growing Traits in the Person Who Learns from- Proverbs 28–29
→Trait →Description →Scripture Reference
→Boldness in Righteousness →Living courageously for what is right, unafraid because of a clean conscience and confidence in God. →Proverbs 28:1 – “The righteous are as bold as a lion.”
→Repentant Heart →Willingness to confess and turn from sin instead of covering it up; choosing humility over self-justification. →Proverbs 28:13 – “Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper…”
→Justice-Minded Living →Standing for what is fair and right, especially on behalf of the oppressed or marginalized. →Proverbs 29:7 – “The righteous care about justice for the poor…”
→Faithfulness in Leadership →Leading with integrity, humility, and service whether in the home, church, or community. →Proverbs 29:2 – “When the righteous thrive, the people rejoice…”
→Teachability and Correction →Accepting rebuke and instruction as a strength, not a weakness; a marker of a wise and growing person. →Proverbs 29:1 – “Whoever remains stiff-necked… will suddenly be destroyed…”
→Fear of the Lord →Rooting strength and moral courage in reverence for God, which keeps the heart anchored and behavior consistent. →Proverbs 29:25 – “Fear of man will prove to be a snare…”
TAKE-HOME THOUGHT
The bigger picture of God’s plan associated with Proverbs 28-29 reveals His desire for His people to live with strength and character, characterized by trust in Him, righteous leadership, and a teachable spirit. These principles guide us to live righteously and reflect God's character in our interactions. "Those who trust in the Lord will prosper" (Proverbs 28:25). By prioritizing trust in God, we align ourselves with His wisdom and experience His blessings.
Reflecting on these chapters, we see that wise leadership and a teachable spirit are integral to living a life that honors God. "When the righteous thrive, the people rejoice; when the wicked rule, the people groan" (Proverbs 29:2). Righteous leaders create an environment where people can flourish, while stubbornness and refusal to accept correction can lead to downfall. Embracing these principles helps us navigate life's challenges with confidence, knowing that our actions and relationships reflect God's wisdom and love.
By understanding and applying these truths, we can find hope, direction, and purpose in our relationship with God. Embracing the lessons from Proverbs 28-29 enables us to live lives that are fulfilling, impactful, and aligned with God's perfect plan.
Session 11: Trusting God’s Plan - Proverbs 30
READ - Proverbs 30
OVERVIEW
Proverbs 30 is attributed to Agur, the son of Jakeh. This chapter contains reflections on the nature of God's wisdom, the importance of recognizing His sovereignty, and the dangers of greed and self-righteousness. Agur's words remind us to trust in God's plan and seek humility and contentment. "Every word of God is flawless; he is a shield to those who take refuge in him" (Proverbs 30:5). Pastor Timothy Keller notes, "Agur's wisdom teaches us the value of humility, the importance of relying on God's word, and the need to avoid the pitfalls of pride and greed."
THOUGHT BY THOUGHT
The Wisdom of Agur: Agur begins by acknowledging his own limitations and need for God's wisdom. Proverbs 30:2-3 says, "Surely I am only a brute, not a man; I do not have human understanding. I have not learned wisdom, nor have I attained to the knowledge of the Holy One." This humble admission sets the tone for the chapter, emphasizing the importance of recognizing our dependence on God for true wisdom. Pastor Rick Warren explains, "Acknowledging our limitations and seeking God's wisdom is the foundation of a life that honors Him."
Recognizing God’s Sovereignty: Proverbs 30:5-6 highlights the perfection of God's word and the importance of trusting in His sovereignty. "Every word of God is flawless; he is a shield to those who take refuge in him. Do not add to his words, or he will rebuke you and prove you a liar." This principle teaches that God's word is complete and trustworthy, and we must not attempt to alter it. Christian author John Maxwell states, "Trusting in God's sovereignty and relying on His flawless word provides a secure foundation for our lives."
Avoiding Greed and Self-Righteousness: Agur prays for contentment and humility, recognizing the dangers of greed and self-righteousness. Proverbs 30:8-9 says, "Keep falsehood and lies far from me; give me neither poverty nor riches, but give me only my daily bread. Otherwise, I may have too much and disown you and say, 'Who is the Lord?' Or I may become poor and steal, and so dishonor the name of my God." This prayer emphasizes the importance of seeking contentment and avoiding the extremes of wealth and poverty, which can lead to pride or despair. Theologian John Calvin remarked, "Contentment in God's provision and humility in our circumstances are essential for living a life that honors Him."
By reflecting on these biblical principles, we can gain a deeper understanding of the importance of humility, trust in God's sovereignty, and the dangers of greed and self-righteousness. Proverbs 30 offers timeless wisdom that guides us in living a life that honors God and reflects His character.
Key Thoughts
Wisdom Comes from Humility – Agur, the writer of Proverbs 30, acknowledges that true wisdom comes from God, not from human understanding.
God’s Sovereignty is Unshakable – The chapter highlights God’s control over all things, showing that His ways are higher than ours.
Contentment Over Greed – Agur prays for neither riches nor poverty, recognizing the dangers of both and asking for just what he needs.
Avoiding Self-Righteousness – The passage warns against thinking too highly of oneself, reminding us that only God is truly righteous.
Tell the Story
Proverbs 30 is a bit different from the rest of the book. It is written by a man named Agur, who starts by admitting something surprising: he doesn’t know much at all! He says that compared to God, his wisdom is nothing. This is a refreshing reminder that true wisdom comes when we recognize our own limits and trust in God’s wisdom instead.
Agur
also teaches us about trusting
God’s plan.
He prays a simple but powerful prayer:
"Give
me neither poverty nor riches, but give me only my daily bread."
(Proverbs 30:8,)
He understands that having too much can make someone forget about God, while having too little could lead to temptation. Instead of chasing wealth or worrying about the future, he simply asks God for what he needs each day. This kind of trust helps us avoid both greed and self-righteousness—two things that can pull us away from God.
Agur also gives us vivid word pictures—four things that are never satisfied, four things too amazing to understand, and even small creatures that are wise despite their size. Each of these examples reminds us of how great and mysterious God’s world is.
The main message? God is in control, and we should trust Him to take care of our needs.
NEW TESTAMENT CONNECTION:
Agur’s
prayer for "daily
bread"
sounds very familiar, doesn’t it? In Matthew 6:11, Jesus teaches us
to pray:
"Give
us today our daily bread."
Just like Agur, Jesus reminds us to trust God for what we need each day instead of worrying about wealth or the future.
Another
connection is found in Philippians
4:11-13,
where Paul talks about being content in any situation, whether he has
plenty or little. He says:
"I
have learned the secret of being content in any and every
situation... I can do all this through him who gives me strength."
Both Agur and Paul understood that real peace doesn’t come from having more money or more success—it comes from trusting in God’s plan. When we stop worrying about having “enough” and start trusting that God knows best, we can live with true contentment and peace.
DISCUSSION QUESTION
Why do you think Agur prays for neither poverty nor riches? How does this apply to our lives today?
What are some ways we can practice trusting God more with our daily needs?
How does Jesus' teaching in the Lord’s Prayer connect with Agur’s wisdom in Proverbs 30?
Have you ever had a time when you had to trust God to provide for you? How did He show up?
Think About This
Have you ever packed for a trip and realized you brought way too much? Maybe you stuffed your suitcase with extra clothes, snacks, or things you thought you might need—only to find out later that all that extra weight just made your journey harder.
Life is a little like that. We often think we need more—more money, more security, more control. But Agur, the writer of Proverbs 30, reminds us that having too much or too little can actually make life harder. Instead, he prays a simple prayer:
"Give me neither poverty nor riches, but give me only my daily bread." (Proverbs 30:8,)
Agur knows that if he has too much, he might forget about God. If he has too little, he might be tempted to sin. But if he has just enough, he can focus on trusting God every day.
This reminds me of the story of manna in the wilderness (Exodus 16). God gave the Israelites just enough food for each day—no more, no less. They had to trust Him daily. Sometimes, we want to stock up on certainty, to know exactly what’s ahead, but God invites us to trust Him one day at a time.
Have you ever had a time when God provided just what you needed—no more, no less? Maybe it was a financial need, an unexpected blessing, or the right words at the right time. These moments remind us that God sees, knows, and cares for us.
A Quote to Ponder
"You
don’t really know Jesus is all you need until Jesus is all you
have."
—Corrie
Ten Boom
When we trust God for our daily needs, we stop worrying about having enough and start resting in His enough.
Reflection Questions
What’s one way you’ve seen God provide for you in the past?
How can we practice trusting Him for today instead of worrying about tomorrow?
What are some “extra things” (worries, ambitions, possessions) that might be weighing us down on our journey with God?
Take a deep breath. Let go of the “extras.” Trust God for today. He will take care of tomorrow.
LEAD-IN QUESTION:
Question: Have you ever felt like life threw you a curveball – something unexpected and maybe even difficult? How did you handle it?
—Think of a time when a change happened that you didn't expect, like a move, a job change, or maybe even something related to your health. Someone once said, "Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans." Sometimes, those unexpected things can make us question what's going on. Proverbs 30 talks about trusting God even when things aren't clear.
DISCUSSION QUESTION:
Question: Proverbs 30:5-6 talks about God's words. What do these verses tell us about the Bible?
—These verses say God's words are "flawless" and we shouldn't add to them. This reminds us that the Bible is God's truth, and we can trust it. It's not just stories or opinions; it's God speaking to us. Think of it like a recipe. If you add or take away ingredients, the dish won't turn out right. The Bible is perfect as it is.
Question: Agur, who wrote this chapter, admits he doesn't understand everything (verse 3). Have you ever felt that way about God or His plans?
—It's okay to admit we don't have all the answers! Even wise people like Agur didn't pretend to know everything. It's a sign of humility to recognize God is bigger than our understanding. Think about the weather. We see the sunshine and rain, but we don't fully understand all the science behind it. God's ways are often like that – we see some of it, but not the whole picture.
Question: Proverbs 30:7-9 talks about two things Agur asks God for. What are they, and why do you think he asks for them?
—Agur asks for honesty ("keep falsehood and lies far from me") and for neither poverty nor riches. He wants just enough. Why? Because both extremes can be dangerous for our faith. If we're too poor, we might be tempted to steal and dishonor God. If we're too rich, we might forget God and trust in our money. It's about balance and recognizing that God provides for our needs. It's like Goldilocks and the three bears – not too much, not too little, but just right.
Question: Verses 10-14 talk about different kinds of people. What are some of the things Agur warns against?
—These verses warn against gossiping, disrespecting parents, and being greedy. These are all things that can damage our relationship with God and others. Gossip can hurt people's feelings. Disrespecting parents goes against God's commands. Greed makes us focus on ourselves instead of God. It's a reminder that true wisdom includes how we treat others.
Question: How does Proverbs 30 help us to trust God's plan, even when we don't understand it?
—This chapter reminds us that God's Word is true, that it's okay to not know everything, and that we should focus on living a life that honors Him. When we focus on these things, it helps us trust that God is in control, even when things are confusing or difficult. It's like having a good friend. Even when you don't understand what they're doing, you trust they have your best interests at heart. We can trust God that way.
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Christians today can apply the principles from Proverbs 30 by embracing humility, recognizing God's sovereignty, and seeking contentment in their daily lives. Agur's acknowledgment of his own limitations and need for God's wisdom is a reminder to cultivate humility. Proverbs 30:2-3 says, "Surely I am only a brute, not a man; I do not have human understanding. I have not learned wisdom, nor have I attained to the knowledge of the Holy One." Pastor Rick Warren explains, "Humility involves recognizing our need for God's guidance and seeking His wisdom in all circumstances." By acknowledging our limitations and relying on God's wisdom, we can navigate life's challenges with a humble heart.
Recognizing God's sovereignty is another crucial aspect. Proverbs 30:5-6 highlights the perfection of God's word and the importance of trusting in His sovereignty: "Every word of God is flawless; he is a shield to those who take refuge in him. Do not add to his words, or he will rebuke you and prove you a liar." Christian author John Maxwell states, "Trusting in God's sovereignty and relying on His flawless word provides a secure foundation for our lives." By trusting in God's plan and His perfect word, we can find peace and security.
Additionally, Agur's prayer for contentment and humility, found in Proverbs 30:8-9, is a powerful reminder to avoid greed and self-righteousness: "Keep falsehood and lies far from me; give me neither poverty nor riches, but give me only my daily bread. Otherwise, I may have too much and disown you and say, 'Who is the Lord?' Or I may become poor and steal, and so dishonor the name of my God." Theologian John Calvin remarked, "Contentment in God's provision and humility in our circumstances are essential for living a life that honors Him." By seeking contentment and avoiding extremes, we can maintain a balanced and righteous life.
SERIOUSLY THINKING- Growing Traits in the Person Who Learns from- Proverbs 30
→Trait →Description →Scripture Reference
→Humility in Wisdom →Acknowledging the limits of human understanding and submitting to God’s greater wisdom. →Proverbs 30:2–3 – “I am too foolish to be a man; I have not learned wisdom…”
→Dependence on God →Trusting God’s plan and timing, even when circumstances are confusing or difficult. →Proverbs 30:5 – “Every word of God proves true…”
→Contentment →Finding satisfaction in what God provides rather than craving more or envying others. →Proverbs 30:8–9 – “Give me neither poverty nor riches…”
→Respect for God’s Order →Recognizing the natural order and God’s control over life’s complexities, and living in harmony with it. →Proverbs 30:24–28 – Examples of ants, lions, locusts…
→Skepticism of Human Pride →Being cautious about pride and arrogance, which lead to downfall and misunderstanding. →Proverbs 30:12 – “There is a generation that is pure in its own eyes…”
→Reverence for God’s Justice →Trusting that God’s judgments are true and just, even when humans cannot fully comprehend them. →Proverbs 30:4 – “Who has ascended to heaven or descended?”
TAKE-HOME THOUGHT
The bigger picture of God’s plan associated with Proverbs 30 reveals His desire for His people to live with humility, recognize His sovereignty, and seek contentment. These principles guide us to live righteously and reflect God's character in our daily lives. "Every word of God is flawless; he is a shield to those who take refuge in him" (Proverbs 30:5). By trusting in God's perfect word and His sovereign plan, we can find peace and security.
Reflecting on these verses, we see that humility, contentment, and trust in God's sovereignty are integral to living a life that honors Him. Agur's prayer for balance and avoidance of greed teaches us the importance of seeking God's provision and being content with what we have. "Keep falsehood and lies far from me; give me neither poverty nor riches, but give me only my daily bread" (Proverbs 30:8). Embracing these principles helps us navigate life's challenges with confidence, knowing that our actions and attitudes reflect God's wisdom and love.
By understanding and applying these truths, we can find hope, direction, and purpose in our relationship with God. Embracing the lessons from Proverbs 30 enables us to live lives that are fulfilling, impactful, and aligned with God's perfect plan.
Session 12: The Virtuous Life - Proverbs 31
READ - Proverbs 31
OVERVIEW
Proverbs 31 is often celebrated for its depiction of the virtuous life, particularly through the description of the noble character of a godly person. This chapter emphasizes the importance of wisdom, hard work, and honoring God in daily life. "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised" (Proverbs 31:30). Pastor Charles Stanley notes, "The qualities of the virtuous person in Proverbs 31 are timeless and serve as a blueprint for living a life that honors God through integrity, diligence, and reverence."
THOUGHT BY THOUGHT
The Noble Character of a Godly Person: Proverbs 31:10-12 highlights the virtues of a noble character. "A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life." This passage underscores the value of integrity, trustworthiness, and devotion in relationships. Christian author John Maxwell states, "A person of noble character is a treasure, impacting others positively through their unwavering integrity and reliability."
Wisdom in Action: Proverbs 31:16-18 portrays wisdom in action through diligence and stewardship. "She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night." This principle teaches the importance of wise decision-making, hard work, and effective management of resources. Pastor Rick Warren emphasizes, "Wisdom is not just theoretical; it is practical and evident in our daily actions and decisions."
Honoring God in Daily Life: Proverbs 31:26-27 shows how honoring God is reflected in speech and behavior. "She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness." This principle highlights the importance of using our words to build others up and being diligent in our responsibilities. Theologian John Calvin remarked, "Honoring God in daily life means reflecting His wisdom and diligence in all we do, serving as a testimony of His grace and truth."
By reflecting on these biblical principles, we can gain a deeper understanding of the qualities that make up a virtuous life. Proverbs 31 offers timeless wisdom that guides us in living a life that honors God through noble character, wisdom in action, and diligent stewardship.
Key Thoughts:
Noble Character Comes from the Heart – The Proverbs 31 woman is not just about tasks; her character reflects her deep love for God and others.
Wisdom in Action – True wisdom is lived out daily through kindness, hard work, and generosity.
Honoring God in Daily Life – Whether in the home, workplace, or community, a godly life shines through faithfulness and integrity.
Tell the Story
Proverbs 31 is often seen as a passage about the "perfect woman," but it is really about a life of godly wisdom that anyone—man or woman—can follow. It describes someone who works hard, helps others, and puts her family’s needs before her own. But most importantly, this person’s strength and dignity come from her trust in God.
This passage begins by saying that a noble person is worth more than rubies (v.10). That means their value is not in what they have, but in who they are. The verses go on to describe someone who cares for her family, manages responsibilities wisely, speaks with kindness, and honors God with her life.
The
last verse, Proverbs 31:30, reminds us what truly matters:
"Charm
is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord
is to be praised."
This tells us that outward beauty fades, but a heart devoted to God lasts forever. The way we live, love, and serve each day is what truly honors Him.
NEW TESTAMENT CONNECTION:
The
characteristics in Proverbs 31 are reflected in Jesus’ teachings
about serving others with love
and humility. One strong connection is found in Colossians
3:23-24:
"Whatever
you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not
for human masters, since you know that you will receive an
inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are
serving."
Just like the Proverbs 31 person, we are called to live out our faith in practical ways. Jesus also demonstrated this in John 13:12-17, when He washed the disciples' feet. He showed that true greatness is found in serving others with love and humility.
So, whether we are managing a household, volunteering, working, or helping a neighbor, we can honor God in all we do. Proverbs 31 isn't just for women—it is for anyone who wants to live wisely and faithfully in Christ.
THINK ABOUT THIS
Have you ever known someone whose kindness, wisdom, and faithfulness made a lasting impression on you? Maybe it was a mother, grandmother, teacher, or friend—someone who quietly lived out their faith, not by preaching, but by the way they cared for others.
Proverbs 31 describes a person like that—someone who isn’t perfect, but whose life reflects the love of God through their actions. They wake up each day ready to serve, encourage, and bless those around them. They may not be famous, but their influence lasts because they live with integrity and wisdom.
Think about this: If someone were to describe your character, what would they say? Would they see God's love in the way you live, speak, and serve?
A Quote to Reflect On:
"Preach the Gospel at all times, and if necessary, use words." – (Often attributed to St. Francis of Assisi)
This reminds us that our actions often speak louder than words. The way we live, love, and serve can be the greatest testimony of our faith.
A Personal Reflection:
Take a moment to think of someone whose godly character has influenced your life. What qualities did they show that reflected Proverbs 31? How can you live out those same qualities today?
LEAD-IN QUESTION: How do we recognize and cultivate the qualities of a virtuous life in our own daily actions?
—"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." (Proverbs 31:30) This verse reminds us that true virtue goes beyond outward appearances and is rooted in reverence for God. Think about someone you admire for their integrity and godly character. How do their actions reflect the principles in Proverbs 31?
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
What characteristics of a virtuous person are highlighted in Proverbs 31:10-31, and how can we apply these qualities in our own lives?
—Proverbs 31 describes a person of noble character as trustworthy, hardworking, wise, and compassionate. Applying these qualities involves being reliable in our commitments, diligent in our tasks, and showing kindness to others. Pastor Charles Stanley notes, "Living a life of integrity means aligning our actions with godly principles and being consistent in our behavior."
How does Proverbs 31:16-18 illustrate the concept of wisdom in action, and why is it important to incorporate practical wisdom into our daily decisions?
—These verses highlight the importance of making thoughtful and informed decisions, working diligently, and managing resources wisely. Pastor Rick Warren emphasizes, "Wisdom is not just theoretical; it is practical and evident in our daily actions and decisions." By incorporating practical wisdom, we can navigate life's challenges effectively and honor God in our choices.
In what ways does Proverbs 31:26-27 show how honoring God can be reflected in our speech and behavior?
—These verses emphasize the importance of using our words to build others up and being diligent in our responsibilities. Theologian John Calvin remarked, "Honoring God in daily life means reflecting His wisdom and diligence in all we do, serving as a testimony of His grace and truth." By being mindful of our speech and actions, we can honor God and positively impact those around us.
How can we find balance in our lives by seeking contentment and avoiding extremes, as suggested by Agur's prayer in Proverbs 30:8-9?
—Agur's prayer teaches us to seek contentment and avoid the pitfalls of greed and self-righteousness. By focusing on God's provision and being content with what we have, we can maintain a balanced and righteous life. Theologian John Calvin remarked, "Contentment in God's provision and humility in our circumstances are essential for living a life that honors Him."
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Christians today can apply the principles from Proverbs 31 by striving to cultivate noble character, exercising wisdom in their daily actions, and honoring God in every aspect of life. Proverbs 31:10-12 emphasizes the value of integrity and trustworthiness: "A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life." Pastor Rick Warren states, "Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching." By living with integrity, we build trust and positively impact those around us.
Applying wisdom in action is another key aspect of a virtuous life. Proverbs 31:16-18 portrays a woman who is diligent and wise in her endeavors: "She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night." This principle teaches us to be thoughtful and intentional in our decisions and to work diligently. Pastor Charles Stanley notes, "Wisdom in action involves making choices that honor God and benefit others."
Honoring God in daily life is essential for living virtuously. Proverbs 31:26-27 highlights the importance of our words and actions: "She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness." By using our words to build others up and being diligent in our responsibilities, we can honor God and serve as a testimony of His grace. Theologian John Calvin remarked, "Honoring God in daily life means reflecting His wisdom and diligence in all we do."
SERIOUSLY THINKING- Growing Traits in the Person Who Learns from- Proverbs 31
→Trait →Description →Scripture Reference
→Diligence and Hard Work →Consistently working with excellence and care in all responsibilities, whether at home, work, or community. →Proverbs 31:13 – “She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.”
→Wise Stewardship →Managing resources wisely and making prudent financial decisions for the household and future. →Proverbs 31:16 – “She considers a field and buys it…”
→Compassion and Generosity →Showing kindness to the poor and extending help to those in need. →Proverbs 31:20 – “She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.”
→Strength and Dignity →Carrying oneself with inner strength, confidence, and moral dignity in every situation. →Proverbs 31:25 – “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.”
→Fear of the Lord →Living in reverence and submission to God, which is the foundation of true wisdom and virtue. →Proverbs 31:30 – “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
→Influential Leadership →Leading by example in family and community, inspiring others through godly character and wise counsel. →Proverbs 31:23 – “Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.”
TAKE-HOME THOUGHT
The bigger picture of God’s plan associated with Proverbs 31 reveals His desire for His people to embody noble character, wisdom, and diligence. These principles guide us to live righteously and reflect God's character in our interactions and endeavors. "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised" (Proverbs 31:30). By prioritizing integrity, wisdom, and reverence for God, we align ourselves with His will and experience His blessings.
Reflecting on these verses, we see that the qualities of a virtuous life are timeless and applicable to all believers. Striving for noble character, applying wisdom in our actions, and honoring God in our daily lives not only enrich our own lives but also positively impact those around us. "Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her" (Proverbs 31:28). By embodying these virtues, we serve as a shining example of God's love and grace.
By understanding and applying these truths, we can find hope, direction, and purpose in our relationship with God. Embracing the lessons from Proverbs 31 enables us to live lives that are fulfilling, impactful, and aligned with God's perfect plan.
The book of Proverbs offers timeless wisdom for living a life of integrity, diligence, and humility, yet it is essential to recognize that these sayings reflect general truths rather than guaranteed outcomes. As theologian Tremper Longman III explains, "Proverbs are principles that are generally true, not promises that are always true," reminding us that wisdom literature provides guidance, not rigid formulas. While Proverbs encourages wise choices that often lead to blessings, life's complexities mean that righteousness does not always guarantee prosperity, nor does folly always result in immediate ruin.
1: Wisdom’s Call - Proverbs 1–3
2: Walking in Wisdom - Proverbs 4–6
3: Choosing Righteousness - Proverbs 7–9
4: Words Matter - Proverbs 10–12
5: A Life of Integrity - Proverbs 13–15
6: Humility & Pride - Proverbs 16–18
7: Wise Relationships - Proverbs 19–21
8: The Power of Self-Control - Proverbs 22–24
9: Living with Integrity - Proverbs 25–27
10: Strength & Character - Proverbs 28–29
11: Trusting God’s Plan - Proverbs 30
12: The Virtuous Life - Proverbs 31
The book of Proverbs is one of the most practical and insightful books in the Old Testament, offering wisdom for daily life, relationships, and decision-making. Written primarily by King Solomon, Proverbs presents short, memorable sayings that convey deep truths about human behavior and the consequences of our actions. However, it is crucial to understand that Proverbs are not absolute promises from God but general principles that reflect how life typically works. As theologian Tremper Longman III clarifies, “Proverbs are principles that are generally true, not promises that are always true.” This means that while wisdom often leads to success and foolishness to hardship, there are exceptions because we live in a broken and unpredictable world.
One of the key themes of Proverbs is the fear of the Lord as the foundation of true wisdom. Proverbs 1:7 states, "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction." This verse reminds us that wisdom is not merely about intelligence or experience but about living in reverence to God and aligning our lives with His ways. Proverbs offers practical guidance on honesty, humility, hard work, and the power of words, but it does not guarantee specific outcomes. For example, Proverbs 22:6 teaches, "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it." While this is generally true, we all know faithful parents whose children have strayed. This does not mean the proverb is false but that it is a guiding principle rather than an absolute guarantee.
Pastor and theologian John MacArthur explains, "Proverbs state what is generally true in a straightforward, cut-and-dry manner without noting exceptions. They are divine guidelines, not inflexible laws." This perspective helps us approach Proverbs with the right mindset, seeing them as God’s wisdom for navigating life rather than rigid formulas for success. As we study Proverbs, we should seek to apply its lessons with discernment, trusting that while God’s wisdom leads to the best path, we must also rely on His grace in the uncertainties of life.